First munch let me down and now I'm questioning myself, any advice?
Hello everyone, it's my first time posting here. I'm a beginner sub and just started going to events this year. I took some workshops, went to a couple demonstrations, and I had my very first play party about two weeks ago.
Everything was great. Everyone was so open and nice that I felt really comfortable, and I even had the chance to play with a couple of people.
So, given my lucky start, today I attended my first munch by myself because neither of my friends wanted to join a more social event. I was nervous but honestly super excited to meet people and engage more with the BDSM community where I live.
But I was so disappointed. The hosts arrived late, the initial talk they were going to do started two hours later than scheduled, and I felt completely out of it. It felt like being at a cousin's birthday party where you don't know anyone but everyone else already knows each other. It was a pretty small gathering, so it shouldn't have been that hard to integrate... but I didn't have any chance to. There were other newbiey like me at the munch, and it was practically the same for them. We all stayed on our own not knowing how to engage, and ended up leaving early too.
Now I'm still feeling down about it and kinda lost my motivation to keep trying to engage with the community here.
Has anyone else gone through something similar at munches? Any tips for navigating events solo or finding ones that are actually beginner-friendly?
Thank you all in advance!