I’m a woman wanting to explore kink/fet more, including femdom, but I would say my “role” overall is a bit more switchy and flexible especially as I’m exploring. I joined Fet hoping to connect with others and did meet up with another switchy/subby man recently, who later said he’d feel comfortable playing with me.
I want to do it, but I’m definitely a little nervous! He’s definitely more experienced in the community and lifestyle, but says he doesn’t necessarily place a ton of weight on experience rather than like, how well he might get along with someone, how safe/comfortable he feels, someone’s enthusiasm, etc. Even with that said, I think I’m just nervous about like…the time comes to play/have a scene and I’m just so awkward it’s not an enjoyable experience or I’m super corny or something. I did let him know I’d like to take it slow and so certain kinks I’m interested in might not be ideal for the first time, which he seems to be on the same page about. We are planning on discussing boundaries and negotiating a scene basically.
I guess I’m just not sure what I should think about, what I should consider, etc. Also maybe some helpful words to help me chill out 😅Currently the most I’ve thought about is I don’t want to have any PIV sex.