What is something nice that a client said to you that stuck with you in a positive way?
More than just a simple compliment.
Why did it stand out to you?
Dm response is good as well.
I was at a club the other day for the first time in 20 years. I was approached by several girls, and had short chats with some, but since it had been so long I wanted to take in the environment as not to seem too out of place. I let most know that and they would make their pitch then move on. It was a great experience. I asked one to come back after I’ve had some time. After a few sets she did. By then I was feeling good and asked her for some information on VIP services.
It was very clear about the service that was being arranged. When it came to terms she said “with you I could do it for $180 or $140.”
This is where I would like your help but I’ll finish the story for some added details.
I said okay, the experience was very good. After it was all done she gave a “one last thing”. As I said I was feeling good and the experience was very good, my head was in a different place. Recovering as coolly as possible, I gave here $230 to cover the service and give a tip. A good to great tip depending on the service rate. As this was a rare occurrence for me I had some extra set aside and was able to be generous. I went and watched a few more sets. After a bit she came back and we talked some more. As I said it was a great experience all around. I want to go back, often as possible.
Back to my question. $180-$140 seems like quite a range. Is giving a range like that normal?
I (M50) went to a club for the first time in at least 2 decades. Fast forwarding through some details I lovely dancer came and sat with me and I had a good time talking with her, it was at least a half hour. We eventually agreed to some time in the VIP. After which I asked if it was too early to ask to see her outside of the club. She handed me her phone, surprisingly quickly IMO and I put my number in. Afterwards we went separate ways.
Being that I hadn’t been to a club in so long when the waitress brought my next drink I gave her a good tip and asked if she had a couple of minutes. She said she had to take care of another area but would be back. 5 minutes later she came back. I admitted it had been a long time since I had been to a club and asked if I was following etiquette, in general not related to VIP. She responded with what I would describe as a devious smirk and playful tone “you’re calm and confident, don’t you know anything about women”. I smiled taking that as I was behaving alright. She stayed for another minute or two pointing out some of the good to know people around, owner, long time dancer, off shift bartender, and shared her candid opinions of them before needing to attend to other tables.
After a couple more songs and drinks the first dancer reappeared and walked around talked to other people then went on stage. I gave her a tip and after her set was done she came back and sat down with me and we spent about another half hour talking. After ordering my third “last drink” the waitress suggested water and I took her up on it. I had great time, but I came here to ask a a question.
How can I best clarify what type of an outside the club relationship we have?
I’m not looking for a girlfriend. I’m not dumb enough to believe she is interested in me that way. I would truly be happy with a platonic friendship. When I first asked for her number i was definitely interested in a casual VIP+ supportive relationship OTC.
We are meeting for lunch next week. I would appreciate Any advice on how I could approach her to politely clarify her understanding of time we spend together.
TL DR: got a strippers number, meeting here outside the club, not sure how to approach her to clarify what our OTC relationship is.