For women: Did you learn to enjoy receiving oral sex later in life?
Got deleted from another sub, so let’s try this. Background: I’ve (M33) been with my wife (F32) for over 10 years. We had a dead bedroom for most of our relationship but managed to revive our sex life and I’m really happy about it (also really proud of my wife). Not to get into too many details on how we did it, but it included trying a bunch of different toys and now using them for her to orgasm.
She never has gotten anything out of me giving her oral sex and hasn’t expressed much interest in receiving it. She’s never been against me doing it, but since she won’t get much enjoyment out of it and won’t orgasm that way, it has pretty much disappeared from our sex routine. Although it’s not uncomfortable for her, she also never requests it. When we’ve talked about it, she has just said that it has never been her thing. I think I used to be at least mediocre in giving head with previous partners, but now it’s been so long that I’ve lost any skill that I had. During the past year, I’ve went down on her once for 5-10 minutes. With this amount of practice, it’s no wonder that I’m bad at it at this point.
However, nothing would give me more enjoyment if I would be able to eat her out and even make her orgasm with just by my mouth and hands. I also find it incredibly hot and sometimes masturbate just for the thought of giving her head. For whatever reason, I came across a reel on Instagram about two women discussing the online blowjob course they had taken and how impressed they were with it. Going down this rabbit hole, it seems that there are quite a few online pussy eating courses available. Somehow this had never occurred to me - it would probably be helpful to get some external knowledge rather than learning on my own. I know that a lot has to do with asking your partner what she likes and not everything works for everyone, but learning some basics and different tricks probably wouldn’t hurt?
So, I’m thinking of really having a go with learning to give oral sex. This would also be very helpful for our sex life in terms of practicality - not having to take out the toys every time and make sure everything is charged. She also needs quite a lot of warming up before penetration, so we never have any quickies. She has really opened up sexually during the past two years, so it could be a good time to try this.
My question to you (women): have you learned to like receiving oral sex? Did your partner learn to do it right or did you come across a new partner who was really good at it? I’d be really curious to learn any experiences that have helped women enjoy receiving oral.