I'm reaching out to this group because I want to ask others in the same community. I hope this can be an ongoing conversation rather than just a one-time question.
My girlfriend and I aren’t exclusively having anal sex we where moving towards 75%, but it’s something I’d personally love to move toward more often and she’s also moving in that direction. When we lived together, we had anal sex regularly—at times multiple times a week. However, after a year of long-distance, our anal encounters became sparse. Now, as we prepare to live together again for the summer, I’m looking for advice on how to safely and enjoyably build back up to where we were. How do we transition from less frequent anal sex back to our previous rhythm of more? We want to ramp up step by step, including stretching and gaping, so that she feels comfortable and we both enjoy it, moving to mainly anal. Any thoughts on how to safely get back to that level?
First nights just massage asshole, then onto tongue, then slowly fingers, plugs then dildos and dick. All over different nights. She’s someone who will be very open, but she needs time.
Should she be preparing herself before we reunite? She’s not great at training when I’m not there to do it.
Many thanks AO community