A girl completely changed the way I saw dating a few years ago.

I was seeing this Lithuanian girl for a while and I remember constantly feeling confused around her. Not in a toxic way, more like… she clearly understood social dynamics and attraction way better than I did.

At the time I thought dating was mostly about being genuine, communicating clearly and showing interest when you liked someone.

But with her, I started noticing that attraction wasn’t that simple.

Sometimes we’d have an amazing night together and then the next day the energy over text would feel completely different. I’d overthink small things constantly and had no idea why certain interactions pulled her closer while others seemed to kill the vibe.

Eventually I talked with a friend about it out of pure frustration and he introduced me to a completely different perspective on dating, attraction and male/female dynamics.

That was honestly the beginning of me getting into self-development, books, coaching, psychology, all of it.

I didn't want to miss the opportunity with that girl so I invested into coaching, and get around with guys who knew way more than me about the dynamics of dating and how to communicate properly, I hired my dating mentor

I didn't want free youtube videos, or just general advice, I wanted to invest money to stop waisting my time and don't get more frustrated.

Honestly the biggest thing I learned was that I was trying to figure out dating completely alone while pretending I “should already know” how all of this works.

At some point I got tired of feeling confused all the time, especially with that girl, and I realized I was already paying the price anyway: overthinking, frustration, missed opportunities, mixed signals, wasted time.

So instead of staying stuck watching random YouTube videos and guessing, I invested into a dating coach and started spending time around guys who were genuinely way more experienced than me socially.

That changed everything honestly. I did date this Lithuanian baddie and we were together for 4 months

Not because somebody gave me “magic lines”, but because I finally started understanding the emotional/social side of attraction instead of approaching everything logically.

Looking back now, I think a lot of men stay stuck because nobody actually teaches you this stuff growing up. You just figure it out through pain, rejection and confusion.

Curious if anyone else had a specific person or experience that completely changed the way they approached dating.

Need Advice From Experienced Guys in Game / Dating

I want to share something honestly and see if some of you who have been deep in game for years can relate or offer perspective.

I’ve been a dating coach for a while, and for the past 7 years I’ve been living as a digital nomad. I’ve traveled through 13+ countries, speak multiple languages, approach women regularly, and overall I’ve had a lot of experiences with women, dating, and social dynamics.

But during the past year, I’ve started realizing something that I don’t fully like about myself anymore.

I think I’ve developed not just a sex addiction, but a deeper addiction to women, seduction, and “the game” itself.

What I mean is:
every time I go outside and see an attractive woman, I feel an urge to approach. And if I don’t approach, I sometimes feel guilt or internal conflict.

The weird part is:
most average guys feel bad because they can’t approach.

I feel bad because I can approach… and sometimes I do it too much.

To the point where it distracts me from:

• work
• business
• focus
• purpose
• inner peace

It’s like my brain is constantly scanning for women, opportunities, attraction, validation, novelty, etc.

Recently two friends told me something that shocked me:
they said that 80–90% of what I talk about daily somehow comes back to women.

That hit me hard because I genuinely don’t want women to become the center of my identity or consciousness.

I care deeply about:

• self-development
• spirituality
• meditation
• mindfulness
• purpose
• building my life
• connection with God

And lately I’ve felt internally divided between:

• discipline / higher purpose vs
• lust / novelty / seduction addiction

Another layer to this:
because I coach men in dating and confidence, sometimes my ego feels pressure to “prove it” constantly.

For example, if I travel to a new country and don’t get involved with local women, a part of me irrationally feels like I’m losing credibility or “not living up” to my identity.

I know that sounds unhealthy, and I’m aware enough to recognize it.

I’m considering things like:

• therapy
• dopamine detox
• stepping back from game for a while
• deeper spiritual work

But I wanted to ask experienced guys first, especially those who have been heavily into game or seduction for years:

• Have you gone through something similar?
• Did game ever become addictive for you?
• Did you ever feel mentally consumed by women or novelty?
• What helped you rebalance yourself?
• How did you separate healthy masculine desire from compulsive behavior?

I’m asking because I genuinely want to evolve and become more internally free.

Would appreciate honest feedback from guys who have real experience.

I talk more about my dating experiences here, thank you

just a man to man talk, what is the hardest place in your opinion?

I have been learning and improving my game for at least 3 years, and I have been traveling solo for 13+ countries, so far:

North Macedonia (europe)
Albania (europe)

My game and social skills are pretty solid (I've been teaching and helping shy guys with this) but even knowing that, it was super difficult to game in these places.

I'm curious about your perspective, let's share

I talk more about my dating experiences here