From feeling insecure to hearing “big and hard” from the woman I love
I’ve posted here before about my size insecurities. Rationally, I know I'm not small (a bit over 7 inches with around 5.7 inches girth) but for some reason I almost never got direct feedback about it, so mentally I kept questioning myself.
I had exes who said they loved my dick, and one even admitted later that her current partner was smaller and that mine had been a really good size, but none of those moments really fixed the insecurity in my head.
Part of it came from a previous relationship where my girlfriend had been with a bigger guy before me, and even though she never directly insulted me or anything, I always felt like I was being compared. That messed with my confidence for a long time.
Now I’m with my current girlfriend, and honestly the relationship and chemistry are amazing. There was already one moment I mentioned in an earlier post where we were doing prone bone and she literally had to stop me because it was “too deep.” Since then it’s happened multiple times. Obviously it’s not exactly pleasant for her in those moments, but for me it was still a huge mental reassurance that I actually am enough physically.
Anyway, recently we had the longest session we’ve ever had together, over 2 hours. The chemistry was insane, everything just clicked, and I could tell during it that something felt especially intense between us.
Afterwards she was almost in disbelief telling me how good the sex was. Not in a fake ego-boosting way either, she genuinely seemed surprised herself. Then completely on her own she started talking about how “big and hard” I was that night. Those exact words.
And honestly, hearing that from the woman I love hit differently than any compliment before.
I know technically my size didn’t magically change overnight, but clearly the combination of the chemistry, the attraction, and how turned on she was made it feel that way to her. And for the first time in a long while I actually felt fully confident instead of questioning myself.
We’ve also gotten very close recently to her having a penetration-only orgasm, which is something we’re still exploring together, and overall this whole experience just gave me a level of reassurance I never really had before.