I don't get sex. Am I doing something wrong or am I just dating the wrong women?
I get dates occasionally, and some of them go well. I’m confident that I have at least decent social skills and can escalate physically (touching, flirting, kissing etc.).
But here’s my issue: my last 10–12 dates never led to sex. Sometimes we kiss, sometimes there’s chemistry, but it almost never escalates that far.
And honestly, many of the girls I date don’t even give me the impression that sleeping with them on the 1st or 2nd date would realistically happen. Most of them seem more shy, cautious, relationship-oriented, or the “take it slow” type.
A friend of mine has the exact same experience. He gets dates too, has good conversations, good first impressions, kisses sometimes… but still almost never gets laid from dating.
So I’m genuinely wondering:
Am I the problem?
(Maybe not gaming them well enough or giving out too much the provider/boyfriend vibe?)
Or does a huge part of it simply come down to the type of women you date?
Because I rarely meet very outgoing “party/adventure” type girls.
About a week ago I had to drive 3 party girls to Marbella (I'm a Taxi driver) and I remember the vibe felt very different to the girls I usually date. It's easier to tease them and also they let body contact happen faster
So I’m curious about other people’s experiences: If sex rarely happens by date 1 or 2, does that usually mean you’re doing something wrong… or has it got more something to do with it about how fast the woman let's you, regardless of how good your game is ?