Where does mutual participation end and FLR begin
Probably not the best phrasing for the title, apologies but my brain couldn't work out the wording.
TLDR, what is the defining factor of a FLR/ what differentiates a relationship where both partners are contributing and will at times "take the reins" vs an FLR where things will be delegated.
I've been looking into alot of FLR stuff as I tend to find that I am the 'capable' one in relationships (not to say my partners are incapable, but I tend to be the one to do the things that need to be done). So the idea of being able to take that more backseat role in a relationship and be a follower not a leader seemed super appealing, which led me to FLRs.
When reading alot of stuff on FLRs I find it to be (for me personally) a little insane the level at which people are able to fully hand themselves over and let someone else take the reins, even though I am interested in a more follower role, the idea of someone making every decision for me just doesn't quite sit right (which is a hyperbolic framing of FLRs, I am aware). I just cant imagine there's someone out there that could correctly understand the whole of me and be able to make huge decisions for/about me.
Which brought me to wonder at what point does a relationship where both parties are involved and may trade taking the reigns stray into becoming a FLR, is it just that the Femme has the final say?
If I have fully misunderstood FLRs, apologies and I would definitely appreciate any posts/literature that would help paint a more clear picture of what an FLR is.