u/BusyAd501

I want to try new things during sex but I feel like many things labelled as kinky are often at the expense of the woman's comfort.

I am totally against anything that perpetuates sexual violence and disrespect towards women. I have never been comfortable with the idea that sex is for a mans pleasure and everything that is for women is always her submitting to him in some way or suffering.

That being said I have not opposed things that included pain but I worry this is what I have percived as normal due to r*ape culture and porn.

Anyway can anyone recommend things to try during sex that aren't some form of romanticised tourture?