u/COVID_Workingmom

I am newbie. Pls point me to the original discussion chain if this is already discussed.

I have a POT (met a few times, people told me this is POT not SD, what does POT mean?). As I am inexperienced, he initially proposed a PPM amount which felt too low to me, after first hotel meet. I haven't got chance to bring it up yet ( plan to do it before next hotel meet).

We met on Friday at hotel, he said it was most amazing experience he had, and thanked me a bunch (in person and through text) for spending time together. Then afterwards he has been texting me every other hour.

Then i asked him if he would treat me for lashes and nails. He said he would acquire a vintage quartz ring ( through his work network) for me, so will let me "pick up the lashes and nails".

I don't even know when he will give me the ring yet (i actually don't really care, it is just quartz), but i felt he is trying to use the ring as a lure to keep me on hook, and an excuse to refuse to give other treat..... Am i sensing this right?

This might be too sensitive. But we know the performance sometimes decline as the age goes up..... questions for SBs, score your bedroom satisfaction (1- 10 with 10 best) and tell me if you would stay in the relationship if bedroom is really not interesting........

I am a newbie. My SD said he had a PPM arrangement with a SB for a year previously, and its exclusive. So i just agreed to it. The hotel he books is very far from me (45mins drive), and he offer to drive/drop me off.

I cannot stay overnight at a hotel in general. SD initially invited to meet up at hotel late morning on a weekday, then he suggested to have dinner together the day before. I suggested a casual and nice restaurant nearby my home so its logistically easier - as i only have ~3 hours at night between finishing work and wind down/sleep time. However SD insisted to drive (45mins) to have dinner at a restaurant nearby the hotel and do a bit bedroom thing as "prelude" the night before.

I am a bit pissed. The evening is not paid, only the next morning is paid. Its nice to spend some time outside the bedroom together, but for me to spend 1.5hours on commute after a full workday so he can have some sexual fun in a hotel, and this will squeeze the dinner time too.

In addition, i think the PPM amount is too low for the time and effort i spend on each meet up.

SDs and SBs what do you think ? Please help me.

I am a newbie. I signed up SD for some fun and financial help. I am quite busy and have friends, work and child, not looking for a relationship/soul mate in SD.

Turned down first SD, who offered a monthly allowance for part-time girlfriend style, the allowance is too low and i am not interested to hang out with him (not interesting person) either.

Second SD is wealthy, net worth >10MM, not divorced but open marriage. He offered PPM. Nice cars, nice restaurants, very gentleman and loving in bedroom (but it was very boring - just full disclosure, I know I should not have expectations). Respectful about my life and time. I agreed to the PPM price thinking it would be a lunch + 1~2 hours in bed, however it ends up being 3.5 hours in bed........., plus the hotel he preferred is 40mins from my place so in total it will take me more than 5 hours and I won't be able to stay for dinner afterwards (my own reason). After first time, I felt the PPM price for such a production is too low. It is even lower than my hourly rate at work................

After first date and meet up, he seems like me a lot. He started to text me everyday, about his life, asking how was my day, text good morning, good night .etc. And he sometimes video call me just to say hello. He has also been suggesting outdoor sports / activities to do together. Also he even volunteered himself to be my date at a gala that i am going to attend, 5 days after we met.

To provide such attention constraints my time really - I work and do child care responsibilities, then squeeze in workout/reading time. His PPM price is too low for me to provide daily attention, be available for sports/activities like a real GF......

It looks like his expectation is quite clear - a soul mate, part time fun partner, some texts and calls, and available once a week in bedroom. If the PPM is increased by 60%, or turn into a monthly allowance (assuming bedroom meet up 4~5 times) i would be happy to re-order my priorities and provide that. And I know he absolutely can afford it!!!!!

How do i communicate with him without making him feel it is purely transactional - which is not. How do I know if he would provide the potential increase of allowance/PPM if the relationship develops? Someone could promise - oh maybe we can increase in a few months if this works out, lets say how things goes - then it becomes a target for me to perform and hit.

I am a newbie. I signed up SD for some fun and financial help. I am quite busy and have friends, work and child, not looking for a relationship/soul mate in SD.

Turned down first SD, who offered a monthly allowance for part-time girlfriend style, the allowance is too low and i am not interested to hang out with him (not interesting person) either.

Second SD is wealthy, net worth >10MM, not divorced but open marriage. He offered PPM. Nice cars, nice restaurants, very gentleman and loving in bedroom (but it was very boring - just full disclosure, I know I should not have expectations). Respectful about my life and time. I agreed to the PPM price thinking it would be a lunch + 1~2 hours in bed, however it ends up being 3.5 hours in bed........., plus the hotel he preferred is 40mins from my place so in total it will take me more than 5 hours and I won't be able to stay for dinner afterwards (my own reason). After first time, I felt the PPM price for such a production is too low. It is even lower than my hourly rate at work................

After first date and meet up, he seems like me a lot. He started to text me everyday, about his life, asking how was my day, text good morning, good night .etc. And he sometimes video call me just to say hello. He has also been suggesting outdoor sports / activities to do together. Also he even volunteered himself to be my date at a gala that i am going to attend, 5 days after we met.

To provide such attention constraints my time really - I work and do child care responsibilities, then squeeze in workout/reading time. His PPM price is too low for me to provide daily attention, be available for sports/activities like a real GF......

It looks like his expectation is quite clear - a soul mate, part time fun partner, some texts and calls, and available once a week in bedroom. If the PPM is increased by 60%, or turn into a monthly allowance (assuming bedroom meet up 4~5 times) i would be happy to re-order my priorities and provide that. And I know he absolutely can afford it!!!!!

How do i communicate with him without making him feel it is purely transactional - which is not. How do I know if he would provide the potential increase of allowance/PPM if the relationship develops? Someone could promise - oh maybe we can increase in a few months if this works out, lets say how things goes - then it becomes a target for me to perform and hit.