Kink for Assisting and Helping
Kinks. They are a fun thing and everyone has their own kink/kinks. It is a universal thing and we all know kinks usually develop from early on experiences with sexual encounters or even from early trauma in your life. For myself I’ve always been the person that is a people pleaser. I’m not someone who doesn’t act like myself and I won’t change how I act for people. No. I mean I have always been the person to want to assist people, make them happy, and overall just make them smile. My favorite memories growing up is holding the door for someone as they would smile at me or letting them take my place in line as they would be grateful for it. This has did truly leaked into my kink side as well, but I’m curious how many people are genuinely like this?
For myself I started off sex with wanting to learn how to pleasure the other person. I get aroused, yes, but and it’s a heavy but, my body mainly gets its arousal from seeing how good I can make the other person feel. I’ve spent years and years learning and getting experience so I can try to be better at this. It’s something I genuinely enjoy doing so much. This has led to me loving to tease the other person, edging them and overall making them a horned up and drenched mess. I obviously get aroused and wouldn’t mind having myself get touched too, but I could go an entire session just pleasuring the other person without being touched back and I’d be happy. My favorite sexual memories are ones where I see the pure bliss and shock in someone’s face from my hands on them.
It’s apparently also weird to some people that I’m like this but that I’m a dom with it. They immediately assume giving pleasure is a sub thing, but I’ve always read it more as a dom trait as the dom needs to care and pleasure his sub.
I bring this up to all of you to get some perspectives and see how many people can actually agree and relate to this? I always play the strong dom role but it feels a bit empty and weirdly alone when I scroll Reddit and don’t see many people that share this same type of style as myself.