u/CalmControl1

What happened next probably didn't shock you. Unless of course your laptop, computer or smartphone isn't properly put together and decides to spontaneously discharge your battery. If that does happen, I will completely take credit and accept that I'm the new Oracle.... That said if you feel like you need a good shock, I do have some lovely electrical toys.

Sadly it is far more likely that I will remain a nerdy guy who has been into almost all things BDSM for over 15 years. Thus I shall accept my fate and try to embrace it, which is easiest by finding someone who is willing to indulge me.

About the person I am when I'm not posting personals online:

As a hobby I really like doing various things like wood working, building computers, playing video games or cards against humanity, travelling, and playing with my dog.

I'm an IT-guy. Though that is more descriptive of the amount that company pays me than what I actually do. I'm mostly responsible for making sure the customers are happy. Considering people, in general, don't quite get how the angry pixies make Google work, I tend to be quite busy. I like my job enough and the people I work with are nice. It's a job that keeps the bills paid and the days filled.

I have always had a taste for hypnosis, submission, rough sex, service oriented submission, orgasm control ,transformation and basically any story trope that has someone bend,to the will of someone else. In the early onset of the 21st century the internet was a true haven for any kind of curiosities like this.

I've been lucky enough to try explore a wide variety of play styles and fetishes and met some great friends and mentors along the way.

To list just a few kinks that I love... Orgasm control, impact play, wardrobe control, begging, hole training, oral, body writing, all things tit and nipple play, fuck machines, violet wands... The list goes on and on

I'm a fairly flexible dominant as far as kinks go. I'm strict but understanding and for me kink is about enhancing the fun in sex and building something together rather than just barking out orders... Kink is a two-way road where desires of someone who is submissive are met by someone who thoroughly loves controlling and dominating a woman like me.

I quite enjoy exploring the domination aspects of it outside of the bedroom. Whether it is to remind you to wear what I want, eat healthy, or to tell you to masturbate on command. I like knowing that my desires are your goals.

Who you preferably are I'd prefer you be somewhat attractive, but I'm flexible on body shape and age. The most important aspects are that you are seemingly always horny and love completing tasks to please your dom.

I can't really answer how the body of my ideal woman looks, as I care a little more about the woman that is control of it.

I prefer someone who is nerdy, but for me nerdy means being toally passionate about something and it isn't dependent on what that topic is.... It could be pop culture, makeup, rockets, music, computers, theater; what is important is the passion behind it and that you love learning about it. A good conversation is the bread and butter of a good dynamic.

If you have a good sense of humor that's a huge plus especially if it can be a bit dark.

Finally... Just be open-minded.

Everyone has limits, everyone has fears, everyone has preconceptions.

So what happens now?

As I said at the very start of the post, what happened next won't shock you. If you've enjoyed what I read you'll send me a message. If I enjoyed what you wrote me as a message you'll get a message back. We will go a bit back and forth trading interests like cards. Finally we'll either come to the conclusion that we both suck and shouldn't be allowed to interact with anyone, or that we are kinda enjoying the conversation.

We'll take it off reddit and that conversation will continue. Maybe it'll just stay a conversation. Just friendly banter. It happens sometimes... but if we feel this kinky connection, a lot of fun things can happen.

We aren't there yet, though. You haven't written the message yet. So go send me a little orange envelope telling me about yourself and what you are into.

I’m looking for someone I’m not only sharing my kinks with but someone who can appreciate me for my other qualities. That’s why I’m trying to tell you more about myself and not only me the Dom.

What can be said about me

It’s hard to categorize people but if you would try to do it with me loyal and helpful would come up. As would lazy. Probably. If you need me I’m there. I’m the guy that stays late when you need to get that moving truck empty. I’m loyal towards good friends and partners. It’s sad that this can be counted as a positive trait. I believe it should just be the baseline. At least this way I’m trying to lead as an example somewhere. I don’t let just anyone get close to me. My inner circle is small but they know i can be trusted and relied upon.

Keeping in line with the one word descriptions you could use “cuddly” or “cozy” and wouldn’t be far of the mark. It isn’t the ideal image of a man you see in television or ads but that’s a hard standard to hold anyway. I am working on getting in better shape but for now you get me the way I am. With all the small flaws, blemishes and dents life grants you throughout your journey.

I’m extroverted, spontaneous, love to go out, love to stay in, a passionate traveler, I hike and love to go on long drives and much more. You know how it is when you write a list like that. You never manage to put everything down. I’m usually up for anything at least once. You can always figure out after if you liked it. I need time for myself too though.

If you think you know what’s going on inside me, congratulations! You know more than i do.

Oh, and I’m also a sadist.

Interests

Science Fiction, Fantasy, Other cultures (mainly their foods), Board games, BDSM in all its facets...

Kinks

I tried to make it as extensive as possible but failed spectacularly. Most of it are things i already practiced or at least dabbled in. Some are new territory for myself. You might notice that Bondage/Shibari/Fancy Ropework isn’t included in there. I have almost no experience in it and I’m okay with that. I use rope to stop my partner from getting away. I can do a few harnesses as well but that’s about the extend of my abilities. I love metal shackles (there isn’t anything better than her just holding still.) I’m not expecting someone to fulfill all the things on here like some checklist but if your interests go anywhere in the same direction we might just be a fit.

This list does a bad job of showing how much i enjoy humiliation.

24/7, Anal Stretching, Anal Torture, Anal, Fear, Rimjobs, Spit, Breath Play, Blindfolds (Partner), Whipping, Ballet Heels (Partner), Bare Feet (Partner), Biting, Shaming, Bruises, Tit Torture, Nipple Torture, CMNF, Cunnilingus, Deepthroat, Dirty Talk, Exposing, Humiliation, Tease & Denial, Blow Jobs, Figging, Fixation, Torture, Control, Clit Torture, Long Hair, Collars (Partner), Cuffs (Partner), High Heels (Partner), No Panties (Partner), Chains, Chastity, Tickling, Clamps (Partner), Gags, Corsets (Partner), Scratching, Cages, Leather (Partner), Masks (Partner), Receiving Massages, Giving Massages, Short Skirts (Partner), Mummification, Sub living naked, Naked in “public”, Slapping, Oral, Orgasm Control, Plug (Partner), Sensory Overload, Play fighting, Caning, Drool, Spanking, Public Sex, Sensory Deprivation, Cum Play, Marks (Partner), Electro Play, High Heels (Partner), Tattoos (Partner), Tears (Partner), Interrogation Play, Voyeurism, Wax Play, , Gagging, Bodywriting,

Non kinky but important: Cuddling, fits of laughter, watching movies together, cooking

Limits: Scat and permanent damage

What am I like as a Dom?

I am a sadist. Four words that say a lot and at the same time nothing at all. That’s why I’m trying to differentiate it a bit. It is not the pain directly that turns me on. It is my partner's willingness to accept the pain just because I want her to. If she likes pain or just endures it for my pleasure is not relevant. Both variants are exciting in their own ways. I enjoy pushing boundaries with my partner. To make her beg for more. Knowing I can take what I want and she is giving it to me willingly instead of having to punish her. Therefore punishment is not my preferred way to lead in a D/s relationship. Punishment needs to be administered if it is warranted but I would rather have my sub be a slave of my affection than my whip. I take care of my Sub. It’s not “undignified” to give her a massage after a hard day or give her a break to relax while I’m taking care of the chores (although it can be fun to pretend that it is.) I don’t mind going down on my knees in front of my partner to take care of her. Devotion happens in the head and a slightly uncomfortable sitting position doesn’t change that fact. (But it looks pretty when she does it :D)

Submission means to give not to take. Why should I take what i want? I prefer to show you that I’m the person you want to give it to.

What am I looking for? I'm looking for a submissive long term partner but I’m not opposed to just meeting new people in general. I’m looking for someone to explore with. To experience new kinks and and strengthen the known. A woman who isn’t just a sub but a friend. I’m not just a Dom. I am a human. I have needs and urges as well. I'm looking for someone I can shoot the shit with but get serious when she forgot to do the ordered chores or tasks. Someone who puts something into the relationship and isn’t just an “Okay, Sir”-Bot. (Seriously, I could take an hour out of my time and could program a better interaction than I had with some people I've met online) Now this does not mean bratty. In fact I prefer it when my partner is not on the bratty side. If you want to get spanked you don’t need to act up until I punish you. You can just ask if I might be so nice as to spank you. I’m also looking for more than just in the bedroom stuff.

If you just think I’m a fun guy and would love to play sometime you can hit me up as well. Preferably with an idea you would want to try.

Favorite Movies

Star Wars, Saving Private Ryan, Iron Man, Lord of the Rings, Anything Pixar, Guardians of the Galaxy, The Bank Job

Favorite Shows

Burn Notice, Last Week Tonight, Person Of Interest, White Collar, Battlestar Galactica, House

As Far as Music goes I'm all over the place

If you made it this far I'm hoping to hear from you soon. Online or Florida

You know how people say it's about the journey, not the destination, strangely it's true. I am 34 year old, I've been in the BDSM lifestyle and community since I was in my 18.

I was lucky enough to be mentored by quite a few lovely people who not only introduced me to some less common things but taught me how to do them right. A quick rundown of the less common... all manner of impact play, high protocol, fireplay, TENS units, violet wands, bull whips, floggers, wax play, fucking machines, and your more mainstream kinky stuff too. As a result my play style is incredibly flexible so we'll almost definitely find areas of shared kinks.

With that said, I don't want to give you only the impression that I'm just a sweet, kind, and affectionate guy, I am but, make no mistake about my intentions towards you. I want to give you such amazing, and powerful orgasms that you will end up a shuddering and writhing mess of joy and pleasure. I want you, I want you to belong to me, I want to have you and control you. I want to condition you to the point that when you think about me, it makes your cunt clench as you think of what we may do.

Who you are

You're a woman who is somewhere between 18 and 55 years old. You are intelligent, funny, patient, wanton, and have a desire to serve.

I want this to be a freeing experience, you lose your inhibitions, and embrace the person you truly are.

What my kinks are, and what you should expect:

I love giving my submissive tasks, they can range from touching yourself at work, to going about your day with no panties on and a toy inside you.

I love orgasm control, wardrobe control, body worship, forced orgasms, and hypnosis.

I love spanking, and all manner of impact play. I find the contrasting sensation of pleasure, and pain to be distracting, and I love listening/watching my submissive struggle with both. If you happen to be a more extreme masochist, fear not, I thoroughly enjoy indulging that. However if you aren't much for pain, that is fine as well as it is more like sprinkles for me fun when there but fine when absent.

You will be filled, fucked, and made to cum for me until I am satisfied you've been sufficiently used.

I love pictures, and movies, now I know this is a major issue and requires so much trust. You can retain your anonymity if you prefer keeping your face out of anything you feel is compromising, but I will want to see you.

I understand it's intimidating, you start thinking about it, and then you have to start coming to terms with how far it goes within you, and how very much you want this, on the verge of needing it.

How this begins is with a conversation, we will get to know one another, and things will progress from there. So don't be afraid, take the chance, share yourself with me, and give yourself the opportunity to experience something you've been wanting for so long.

By the way as long as this post is still up, I'm still searching , so feel free to send me a message.

Send me a little orange envelope and see where things go.... don't be shy.

Online or Southern US