u/Competitive-Table143

I find that often when I top i cant seem to insert. I do everything right, plenty of foreplay, rimming, fingering etc. The issue isnt them or me not understanding foreplay. Its just when i go to insert its like all that time doing foreplay is undone and their hole (this is multiple people now) is just locked, it doesnt want to go in and i end up flaccid.

Im always hard during oral sex but the moment i have to actually insert i feel like im doing something wrong and it just fails me.

Is there something im doing wrong? Like am i just inserting incorrectly or is this a deeper medical or anxiety issue?