Women: What drew you to feederism?
This might be a niche and definitely a long winded question, but I’m seeking the experiences and aspects of women who didn’t originally consider themselves a part of feederism but came to love/enjoy it.
I have been with my wife for 13 years (married for 6) and recently I have opened up to her more about my kinks.
I have always loved bigger women, and have had an attraction to women who gain weight. Unfortunately I have always been reserved about this, because I felt it was always (maybe until recently) taboo amongst men to prefer bigger women. I already had issues with alienation in school growing up, and I was afraid to push the boundaries further, which I still regret.
I met my wife in college, and she was about 130lbs at the time. She had always been a “fat girl” growing up (she tells me about 200lb at her peak but has scrubbed her old pics off socials, I’ve only seen a few to this day) before losing a bunch of weight later in high school.
Since we have been together, she slowly gained weight, and ultimately gained over 60lbs during pregnancy, keeping about 30lbs postpartum. She has since fluctuated +/-10lbs since then. Throughout our relationship, I have dropped more-than-subtle hints about my preferences and she has been aware of them, sometimes even joking or teasing me about it. I have partially talked about feederism too, but in a super direct manner.
She has always loved snacking, come to request belly rubs frequently, and loves watching “What I Eat in A Day as a Fat Girl” videos. She has not-so jokingly talked to friends about wanting to get fat in her old age, & even more recently, massaging her belly has turned her on to the point where she has asked me to stop (even when they’re asleep, our child doesn’t afford us much privacy). She has, what I feel, are a bunch of similar “interests” with feederism but doesn’t fully acknowledge them.
Recently, she was roughly her highest weight since post-pregnancy (~190lbs), and has been talking about losing weight again. I told her that I loved her current weight, and that I didn’t want her to lose it. It spurred more talks where I have opened up more about my kink, and we have even talked about watching feederism-related porn. Ever since we have been together, I have told her how much I love her body and find her beautiful. That said, since she has gained more I find her irresistible, and I’m sneaking glances and grabbing a handful wherever and whenever I can.
I obviously don’t want to push my wife into something she doesn’t want, but often it feels like she’s so close to loving this kink but denies herself the pleasure. I love her for much more than her weight, but I feel like this is something that is just beneath the surface that can add a new facet to our relationship. I guess ultimately I’m hoping to get some experiences or advice that she can find common ground with for us to explore this together a little more.
I’m not looking for tips on how to get my wife to gain 100lbs in a year or submit to total gluttony. I’m more interested in what might help her see herself as beautiful as I do, and some tips that might help her enjoy her size, feed her desires, and feel more confident.
If there are women in this sub that felt the same, I wanted to know:
-What ultimately changed your mind about this fetish?
-What aspects about this fetish/lifestyle do you enjoy?(femininity, feeling of freedom, perks, etc)
-What advice would you give to someone in her position?
-What advice would you give to me?
-Is there anything we could do in the bedroom that might add to the experience?
-Any other input you have for either of us?
Thanks in advance!