My girlfriend (31) and I (31) are visiting next week for our anniversary and thinking about doing 1–2 nights at Secrets. We’ve dabbled in the lifestyle before (mostly at Colette in New Orleans), but it’s been almost two years since our last time.
Part of that gap is because of one experience that kind of killed the vibe for her. We met a couple who were friendly, but a bit outside our preferred age range, kept talking a lot about their kids (which was a mood killer in a sex club), and ended up being pretty pushy about trying to join us. It left my girlfriend feeling uncomfortable enough that we stepped away from the lifestyle for a while.
She’s open to getting back into things now, but understandably a bit cautious.
We’ll be in town May 5–11, so deciding between Friday and Saturday. I know Saturdays are usually busier, but that Saturday is a Mother’s Day-themed event, which has her worried the crowd might skew in a way that could bring back that kind of dynamic we experienced that last time at Colette’s.
We’re totally respectful of everyone in the lifestyle, but our personal preferences tend to lean toward people closer to our age, fitness, and vibe.
Are we overthinking the themed night, or would Friday be the safer/better bet for easing back in?