u/Emotional-Koala-5041

I don't think this will entice most men but let's give it a try. I'm in a relationship and like most people here, life got kind of boring and maybe I'm having a midlife crisis as well. I am seeing someone on the side now which is great. I'm happy with the arrangement but there are highs and lows.

I am looking to have a connection with someone who I could talk to about my secret life. Not just someone to share naughty secrets with but someone I could share my day to day with as well. A good conversationalist, smart and emotionally intelligent man. I am sure you have your fake share of venting too. This will only work if you don't mind me bragging and swooning over my guy though so if you're into that, let's talk and see if we connect.

Looking to someone close to my age. Ideally 34-45. Intelligence and good conversations over looks. Please no one liners or low effort responses.

If it's strictly fwb, would you enjoy intense eye contact and hand holding during sex? My fwb (m) has been very affectionate lately. It's more akin to love making with all this eye contact, hand holding and kissing me during sex. Is that too much? Crossing the line? Do men only do these when they catch feelings or does it just feel nice?

I've been when men who will give oral but it's never their main event. For them oral is foreplay to lead to sex, their main event. I've accepted this as normal and was ok with it.

I recently started seeing someone who's main event is oral. That man barely comes up for air. Why do one men love it so much? I get the obvious answer like he enjoys her moans and her orgasm. But how does giving oral satisfy you? Is it the taste and feel?

For us women we like to give bj for your reaction but also it's fun to have your cock grow in our mouths.

For men going down on us, what does it feel like when we reach the end? Do you feel us tensing up? Is the c harder? Everything just juicier? From licking is outside you don't actually feel us pulsating and convulsing inside right?

Fwb are friends and some people treat them like they're disposable. My fwb and I have amazing sexual chemistry but his communication between hook ups is lacking. I always initiate. Should I be mad at that if he gives me 110% in person? He's fully present when we're together too.