u/English-Butler

Hello everyone!

I'm a little worried that my last post here appeared too direct and crude so firstly I apologise for that.

That made me think about something I would like to do in hopefully a more respectful way.

Basically as the title says I'd like to take someone on a "date", and I put it in quotations because it doesn't have to be serious, as I don't really expect a relationship would form, but I'd like to do some date-like things I suppose.

I could imagine meeting for coffee or lunch, and then walking around and chatting about things.

If you would like to go onto any shops to look at things I'd gladly accompany you and I'd genuinely be interested in what you'd want to look at.

Also if you wanted to hold my hand while we walked around I would love that too!

Maybe this sounds strange (or even creepy) but I just envision a kind of nice day out with someone for some companionship.

Hello everyone!

I'm a little worried that my last post here appeared too direct and crude so firstly I apologise for that.

That made me think about something I would like to do in hopefully a more respectful way.

Basically as the title says I'd like to take someone on a "date", and I put it in quotations because it doesn't have to be serious, as I don't really expect a relationship would form, but I'd like to do some date-like things I suppose.

I could imagine meeting for coffee or lunch, and then walking around and chatting about things.

If you would like to go onto any shops to look at things I'd gladly accompany you and I'd genuinely be interested in what you'd want to look at.

Also if you wanted to hold my hand while we walked around I would love that too!

Maybe this sounds strange (or even creepy) but I just envision a kind of nice day out with someone for some companionship.

Basically I am looking for a lady who would allow me to perform cunnilingus on her.

I would love to pleasure you as much as I could with my mouth (and fingers or toys if you like), for as long as you want until you are completely happy with the experience.

If you would also like me to kiss or lick other intimate areas of your body I would like to do that too.

I would also enjoy doing other things such as if you would like to be massaged with oil or lotion, working my hands around your legs and arms and body, touching and caressing every part of you.

I would do as much or as little of this as you like, its entirely your choice. Plus if there is anything else you'd like I would be happy to do so, if I can physically pleasure you in some way I will do it!

I do not ask for, nor expect, any kind of reciprocation (but honestly I would be happy to receive if you chose to).

I would be happy to talk online until you are comfortable with me and meet in a public place first, or however you might like to arrange this, whatever works best for you.

Also I am happy with all body types or ages or skin colour, or any aspects of your looks or personal grooming, I would love to do this for any lady.

Some things about me:

I will admit that I am inexperienced in matters of sensuality but I am very willing to learn, and I would love guidance to make this as good an experience for you as I can.

43 year old man.

5'10

Honestly I'm a little overweight, got a belly, but not obese.

I currently have a short beard, sometimes a short goatee, but if you prefer clean shaven I am very happy to do that for you.

Please contact me to let me know if you are interested, and thank you for reading all of this!

Hello, I'm a little unsure about posting this here, whether its acceptable or not, as originally I wrote this today for a femdom reddit as I felt it fitted best there but it also has my thoughts that fit here too and I think I'd like some advice from here too if possible please (I have edited it a little too from my other post).

As the topic says I've been trying to learn about myself recently about my desires and feelings and I will admit that I am not a very confident person (but I am always working to better this) and very inexperienced with ladies.

For a long time I've found that a lot of my relationship and well, sexual, thoughts are based around pleasuring a lady and making her happy and comfortable.

I don't purely think of sexual things either, I mean, I'd be very happy to cook and clean and do house related things, go shopping, etc, if it made a lady happy so she could focus on other things and have some stress taken away.

However I do have many thoughts about what I would enjoy doing with someone but I have an example of a specific fantasy which I often think about that might explain my feelings better, and initially felt like something femdom related but I realise it could be different.

I feel this is something that would be a weekly occurrence and basically comes down to bathing a lady in a respectful and caring way for an evening of pampering. Apologies if this sounds a little clinical like a list, I find it a little difficult to actually write about this.

I'd first fill a bath with warm, maybe scented, water to the temperature she likes and help her in. Then I would use a soft sponge or cloth to wash her arms and legs and body. If it is something she wanted I would shave/trim her legs and more intimate areas to whatever preference she has. Lastly I would like to wash her hair with shampoo and conditioner until she is happy and wants to get out of the bath.

After she gets out I would dry her gently with a soft towel and we would spend some time with me massaging her all over with some lotion. I'd also like to spend some time making sure her hair is perfectly dry and also brushing it to make sure it isn't tangled and more how she likes her style. I'd also be happy to spend some time like painting her nails if she wanted that too.

After all this, and I'm sorry for now becoming dirty, but I would love to spend some time performing cunnilingus on her until she is happily pleasured to, hopefully, multiple orgasms and wants me to stop. Lastly would be a damp warm cloth making sure she is clean again down there ready for the night.

Things could be in a different order or not done at all or some things done more often than weekly, etc.

This is also where I have a little conflict with my thoughts though because I can also see doing this in a kind of dominating way.

Basically it's the exactly same thing but just done slightly differently, like the lady would be more passive I suppose because I'm doing these things more for my own pleasure than hers. Such as maybe more touching her intimate areas while in the bath, or shaving/trimming her down there into my own preferred style on a lady.

During the massage more touching of her, making her more aroused while we're doing that, only to slow as we do the other things like painting her nails (which I'd choose), and then finally still end with cunnilingus but I would keep going until I wanted to stop after giving her as many orgasms as possible.

I have heard the term pleasure dom before so maybe that fits me instead, or maybe I'm more of a switch which makes me even more confused about how I feel especially because I haven't had the chance or pleasure of being able to do any of this with a lady. I don't even know if someone would really want to do any of this in either a femdom or maledom relationship.

That's just one example as I say but hopefully it does explain my thoughts on things and I apologise for this being very long and rambling, maybe this entire post is actually just about my fantasy and I didn't intend that, so I apologise, and I realise now I have no specific questions but I am curious what others might think about any of this or may have any advice for me learning more.

Thank you for reading this if you've done so, at the least for me it feels good to get some thoughts out of my overthinking brain.

Lastly I hope its okay to basically make the same post here as one in another reddit in my attempt to learn more.

Hello, as the topic says I've been trying to learn about myself recently about my desires and feelings and gentle femdom seems like something I would enjoy as I think it fits with some of my thoughts already. I will admit that I am not a very confident person (but I am always working to better this) and very inexperienced with ladies.

For a long time I've found that a lot of my relationship and well, sexual, thoughts are based around pleasuring a lady and making her happy and comfortable.

I don't purely think of sexual things either, I mean, I'd be very happy to cook and clean and do house related things, go shopping, etc, if it made a lady happy so she could focus on other things and have some stress taken away.

However I do have many thoughts about what I would enjoy doing with someone but I have an example of a specific fantasy which I often think about that might explain my feelings better.

I feel this is something that would be a weekly occurrence and basically comes down to bathing a lady in a respectful and caring way for an evening of pampering. Apologies if this sounds a little clinical like a list, I find it a little difficult to actually write about this.

I'd first fill a bath with warm, maybe scented, water to the temperature she likes and help her in. Then I would use a soft sponge or cloth to wash her arms and legs and body. If it is something she wanted I would shave/trim her legs and more intimate areas to whatever preference she has. Lastly I would like to wash her hair with shampoo and conditioner until she is happy and wants to get out of the bath.

After she gets out I would dry her gently with a soft towel and we would spend some time with me massaging her all over with some lotion. I'd also like to spend some time making sure her hair is perfectly dry and also brushing it to make sure it isn't tangled and more how she likes her style. I'd also be happy to spend some time like painting her nails if she wanted that too.

After all this, and I'm sorry for now becoming dirty, but I would love to spend some time performing cunnilingus on her until she is happily pleasured to, hopefully, multiple orgasms and wants me to stop. Lastly would be a damp warm cloth making sure she is clean again down there ready for the night.

Things could be in a different order or not done at all or some things done more often than weekly, etc, but is this something that could happen in a femdom relationship?

This is also where I have a little conflict with my thoughts though because I can also see doing this in a kind of dominating way.

Basically it's the exactly same thing but just done slightly differently, like the lady would be more passive I suppose because I'm doing these things more for my own pleasure than hers. Such as maybe more touching her intimate areas while in the bath, or shaving/trimming her down there into my own preferred style on a lady.

During the massage more touching of her, making her more aroused while we're doing that, only to slow as we do the other things like painting her nails (which I'd choose), and then finally still end with cunnilingus but I would keep going until I wanted to stop after giving her as many orgasms as possible.

I have heard the term pleasure dom before so maybe that fits me instead, or maybe I'm more of a switch which makes me even more confused about how I feel especially because I haven't had the chance or pleasure of being able to do any of this with a lady. I don't even know if someone would really want to do any of this in either a femdom or maledom relationship.

That's just one example as I say but hopefully it does explain my thoughts on things and I apologise for this being very long and rambling, maybe this entire post is actually just about my fantasy and I didn't intend that, so I apologise, and I realise now I have no specific questions but I am curious what others might think about any of this or may have any advice for me learning more about femdom.

Getting to the end of writing this maybe I should post this in a maledom subreddit to get thoughts from more submissive ladies, but I'm not sure yet.

Thank you for reading this if you've done so, at the least for me it feels good to get some thoughts out of my overthinking brain.

Hello, I've posted about this in other subreddits but recently saw this one so I thought I'd post here too as Plymouth is my nearest big city and easy for me to get to.

Basically I am looking for a lady who would allow me to perform cunnilingus on her.

I would love to pleasure you as much as I could with my mouth (and fingers or toys if you like), for as long as you want until you are completely happy with the experience.

If you would also like me to kiss or lick other intimate areas of your body I would like to do that too.

I would also enjoy doing other things such as if you would like to be massaged with oil or lotion, working my hands around your legs and arms and body, touching and caressing every part of you.

I would do as much or as little of this as you like, its entirely your choice. Plus if there is anything else you'd like I would be happy to do so, if I can physically pleasure you in some way I will do it!

I do not ask for, nor expect, any kind of reciprocation (but honestly I would be happy to receive if you chose to).

I would be happy to talk online until you are comfortable with me and meet in a public place first, or however you might like to arrange this, whatever works best for you.

Also I am happy with all body types or ages or skin colour, or any aspects of your looks or personal grooming, I would love to do this for any lady.

Some things about me:

I will admit that I am inexperienced in matters of sensuality but I am very willing to learn, and I would love guidance to make this as good an experience for you as I can.

43 year old man.

5'10

Honestly I'm a little overweight, got a belly, but not obese.

I currently have a short beard, sometimes a short goatee, but if you prefer clean shaven I am very happy to do that for you.

Please contact me to let me know if you are interested, and thank you for reading all of this!

Hello, I've posted about this in other subreddits but recently discovered this one which is more local to me so I might have more luck!

Plymouth is my nearest big city which is quite easy for me to get to, but I'm willing to travel to Exeter or Bristol, or other locations around the area too.

Basically I am looking for a lady who would allow me to perform cunnilingus on her.

I would love to pleasure you as much as I could with my mouth (and fingers or toys if you like), for as long as you want until you are completely happy with the experience.

If you would also like me to kiss or lick other intimate areas of your body I would like to do that too.

I would also enjoy doing other things such as if you would like to be massaged with oil or lotion, working my hands around your legs and arms and body, touching and caressing every part of you, I would very much enjoy doing that too.

I would do as much or as little of this as you like, its entirely your choice. Plus if there is anything else you'd like I would be happy to do so, if I can physically pleasure you in some way I will do it!

I do not ask for, nor expect, any kind of reciprocation.

I would be happy to talk online until you are comfortable with me and meet in a public place first, or however you might like to arrange this, whatever works best for you.

Also I am happy with all body types or ages or skin colour, or any aspects of your looks or personal grooming, I would love to do this for any lady.

Some things about me:

I will admit that I am inexperienced in matters of sensuality but I am very willing to learn, and I would love guidance to make this as good an experience for you as I can.

43 year old man.

5'10

Honestly a little overweight, got a belly, but not obese.

Currently have a short beard, sometimes a short goatee, but if you prefer clean shaven I am very happy to do that for you.

Please contact me to let me know if you are interested, and thank you for reading all of this!