u/JonSnowKnows00

My previous post was about our first encounter with my wife's guy friend in our hot tub. We were on such a high from that experience. I remember waking up the next day and feeling surprisingly great about the experience. All of the anxiety I felt leading up to the previous night's hot tub hangout was gone. Instead I felt super clear and at ease about everything.

Now that I had met the guy and had an open conversation with him, I no longer felt worried or threatened by him. My wife asked if she could have a hall pass for some 1 on 1 fun with him. After some thought, I granted her a conditional hall pass. If she chose the hall pass, she would have to face certain punishments at home afterwards. Some of the punishments included things we've never done before. DM me if you want details.

The next time my wife saw him at the gym, she told him she had a hall pass and wanted to cash it in. They agreed to meet at noon at his place. My wife texted me with the update and asked for a final green light. I remember my hands feeling a little shaky as I texted back and told her to go for it.

She met up with him and spent an hour at his place. The first 30 minutes was fucking. He took the lead and tried every position he could think of. Apparently he has a lot of stamina. Maybe it was harder for him to cum after the fun we had just the night before. Either way, he definitely wore my wife out by the time he finally finished. My wife didn't orgasm but loved being used for his pleasure.

My wife came home and immediately wrote down all the details and shared the play-by-play with me. The next night, I set out a new red lingerie set for her to wear and told her the punishments she must face. I could tell she loved the roleplay and was eager to pay for her sins. We enjoyed some of the hottest, kinkiest sex we've ever had that night. It was sexy, reassuring and full of adrenaline all at the same time.

Feel free to message with any questions. I love chatting about this stuff and hearing from others, especially those with more experience.

A little background first. My wife (43F) and I (45M) were both raised in very strict, religious families. The only thing I was taught about sex was to wait until you're married. That's exactly what my wife and I both did. We got married very young (22 and 20). Neither of us had any real dating experience and never had a serious relationship before we met each other.

Fast forward 23 years (we just celebrated our anniversary) and we are more in love than ever! It's scary to look back and think how young and naive we were when we got married. Fortunately, over the years we've learned how to be more authentic with ourselves and more authentic with each other, even when it doesn't line up with our religious culture.

Maybe this is our version of a mid-life crisis. Now that we're in our 40s, we're realizing life is short and we want to live out our fantasies and have fun experiences while we're still young and healthy enough to enjoy them. Sometimes I feel like my only purpose in life is to solve problems at work, take care of the kids, earn money, make dinner, repeat. I like doing those things, but I lose track of who I am and what I really want when I get pulled in so many directions by other people. Life can start to fell dull and monotonous when you lose your sense of self.

Over the last few years, my wife and I have started to open up more about our fantasies. She revealed she really likes the idea of being worshiped by two guys. Hearing her talk about it turned me on too. A few years ago there was a fit trainer at my wife's gym that openly flirted with her. We discussed trying to do a 3-way with him but I was still on the fence. He would get a little flaky and make up excuses when she put it out there to him. It was a disappointing experience for her to get close to her fantasy but never quite there. We probably dodged a bullet with that particular guy, but the experience got us thinking more about MFM fantasies.

Over the past few weeks, another guy has been flirting with my wife at the gym. We learned he's divorced and enjoys being single in the "alternative lifestyle". Apparently there is a whole scene around where we live (Utah... think "Secret wives of mormon wives" stuff) where couples and singles get together for all sorts of fun.

My wife invited this guy to come hang out at our hot tub this past weekend so we could ask questions about the local lifestyle community, his experiences, boundaries, advice, etc. I loved being able to openly discuss this stuff with someone who has lived it.

As the conversation started to wind down, I said I was going to step out of the hot tub to get a drink and when I come back, I want to see them making out. I was shaking as I went inside. I peeked out the window and saw them making out as my wife was straddling him in the hot tub. The wave of adrenaline or dopamine hit me like a truck. It was hot and shocking at the same time. I quickly rejoined the party in the hot tub to got a closer look. My wife's top was up over her boobs and he was sucking her beautiful c-cup breasts.

After a few minutes of making out with him, she switched and did the same with me while he watched. He stood near us and we could see he was getting hard. We had him sit on the edge of the hot tub so my wife could blow him. Watching her take another dick into her mouth was soooooo hot. As she continued to suck his cock, I slid off her bikini bottoms and played with her from behind. After a few minutes, he said he was getting close and asked my wife to play with his balls. She cupped and licked them as he jerked himself off. Moments later he came all over her breasts and shoulders.

He let himself out after that and my wife and I stayed behind to play in the hot tub together. It was such an intense shared experience. I felt strangely closer to my wife after having done this together.

I have more to share (things escalated quickly) but I'll save that for another post.

This is very new territory for us. I'm open to any advice as we try to navigate these tricky waters. Hoping this subreddit will be a welcoming and informative place to talk about these experiences.