u/No_Fishing2676

55M, happily married to my wife and out as bi to her for a year. We have discussed a 3some in the not too distant past, but it kinda centered around the idea that she was the main attraction with us adding a bi male in.

How do I tell her I like the idea, but rather the 3rd being the main attraction for me. Meaning she will still be involved of course, but that the point is the guys...without sounding selfish. It just sounds selfish to me, but i'm like...I'm the one thats bi not you...like she is not bi at all.

Anyway, thought maybe someone else might have a similar experience that they can share?