Recently, I'd reached out to an SD who is in the same city as me and was very clear that I'm only here for another two weeks for my internship and won't build up to sex. He agreed so we moved our conversation to TG.
I asked him to tell me about himself and his first instinct was to mention his sexual prowess which turned me off immensely given that I'd already made myself clear that sex was off the table and I'm only open to dates, apart from the fact that mentioning sexual prowess as the first thing about yourself is such a shallow thing to do. A person is not how good/ bad they are at sex, they're their hobbies and personality first.
I told him the same and he said he won't pressure me into sex and is cool with going on a date and exploring. I once again iterated (third time) that sex is off the table, I'm open to a casual M&G and guess what? He again mentioned we can meet in a decent hotel if I'm interested. As if I don't know what that means and I was born yesterday.
It's okay to be in this for sex, sure, to each their own, but when someone's been upfront about their boundaries, why push? Or heck, why even chase that person and not the others who are offering. I understand physical intimacy is a part of sugaring, fair, but shouldn't it come after building trust and comfort? And it's not like that's going to be built in a week or two for me, which I was very clear about. I'm just frustrated that so many people on this subreddit simply don't know what sugaring is, or have the comprehension skills of a toddler who skips over everything the other is saying and jumps straight to the topic they want.