husband is a bit selfish in bed..
So my husband and I have been together 8 years married 6. In the beginning, of course like most new relationships we had a lot of sex. He would occasionally eat me out but tbh wasn't great at it i basically had to teach him how to do it. he would t eat me out at all basically for the entire year following having both my kids.
I'd say our sex life has been pretty vanilla. there's usually no warming up or teasing, basically always just "jump into it" with me giving him a bj every single time and then having sex. i found myself just not enjoying it anymore and it just seems like a chore/only for him. he won't initiate going down on me, i always have to ask him to eat me out. And even when i ask then he'll usually want to 69. i can't get off that way, i can only orgasm laying on my back and watching him eat me out and he knows this. this only happens maybe 1-2 times a month. do feel like he's just a little bit selfish and is most of the time the only one getting off.
so recently i couldn't take it anymore. i HAVE to start orgasming and finding ways to make this more enjoyable for me because almost every time after we have sex i just am left feeling still horny bc I didn't get off. I started going down reddit threads of ways I can get off more (involving toys, positioning myself right so i can start squirting, even tried anal last week) . he's noticing bc he keeps asking me "what are you on" "why are you suddenly squirting and like a dog in heat" 🤣what can i say some of these threads make me seriously horny.
It seems like so many men on here get off on getting their woman off. why does mine not seem to care all that much? Anyone else's husband like this and found a way to fix it?
I don't really know what my question is i guess. i just don't want to have to keep asking him , i just want him to do it. but i also am not going to enjoy it if it feels like he doesn't want to? ugh