My(30f) fiance(27m) and I have a wonderful relationship but having sex is sometimes “too much work” since he can’t finish from penetration, oral or handjob. He tries to finish from penetration and it ends up with him being super exhausted and hiperventilated without climaxing.
Penetration can be super exhausting for him since it takes him more than 20 minutes or even more.
We have sex or intimacy at least once a week (we see each other on weekends)
Most of the times he doesnt finish. Altough we enjoy the emotional part that comes along with intimacy.
At the beginning of the relationship it took a while but he could finish but now its been like a year he only can come by rubbing himself on my butt, similar as the prone masturbation. I dont mind because i like that he can enjoy too, but i fear if we always do this he will never really enjoy penetration?
There’s never something “quick” and I think this lowers my partner’s libido a little bit and i think it’s lowering mine too.
I know this worries him I always tell him to relax and just enjoy without looking for an orgasm and that i love him.
He seems a but frustrated.
But I’m not sure if staying like this can affect us in the future?
He has tried to masturbate in other ways but i dont know . Im lost
We are our first sex partners to each other so we dont have tons of experience.
He says that its getting more difficult to finish even masturbating but he doesn’t wanna think about it because it worries him too much.
Maybe this is also influenced by anxiety.
I am sorry if i am saying something I shouldn’t. i am kinda ignorant (i dont know if i am being too judgamental). I just know i love him too much and I want him to be ok.