I (19F) can’t orgasm or feel much with my partner and I don’t know why, despite being able to on my own
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a bit now and everything is really good emotionally and physically, I just can’t orgasm with him, and I don’t even really get close.
We’ve tried fingering, clit stimulation, oral, etc. I’ve explained exactly what I like and how it feels best, and it’s not like he’s doing it completely wrong. But for some reason I barely feel much pleasure when we’re together.
When I’m alone and do the same things, it feels good and I have no trouble getting to orgasm, so I know my body is capable of it, I just don’t understand what’s different when I’m with him.
I’m really attracted to him and I get turned on when we’re just hanging out or being close, but as soon as things turn sexual, I kind of lose that feeling a bit. I still get wet, but mentally I don’t feel as turned on as I feel like I should be, even though I genuinely want to have sex and find him very attractive.
I love him and I do enjoy having sex with him, it just doesn’t feel very physically pleasurable for me and that’s starting to frustrate me. I’ve been wondering if it could be some kind of performance anxiety, but I don’t actually feel anxious in an obvious way, so I’m not sure.
Has anyone experienced something like this? Or have any idea what might be causing it or how to work through it?
Any advice would really help.