How embracing soft dom changed my life...
Sounds like hyperbole, I know, but hear me out.
I have always been in control of everything. I'm organized, on top of things, responsible, the image of an eldest religiously raised daughter. I never cried. My emotions were fully subdued. I met everything with calculating logic. Femininity was almost a weakness, and I couldn't bear appearing weak. This continued into my marriage.
We've been married for over a decade now. We have tried all manner of dynamics, trying out and sorting what works for us, and what fulfills us both. I tried being a dom, but I found it exhausting and difficult to maintain. Then he became the dom, only a few years ago, and we have settled into him being the soft dom and me being the sub, with some sweet denial sprinkled in.
Guys. My world shifted so hard. And I am so bummed it took this long to get here, but so glad it finally did!
I feel like I can finally breathe. I feel more driven to be a better version of myself. I can cry in his arms. I can be weak and vulnerable and he wraps me up, holding me tight, hushing me softly. I don't have to pretend I have everything under control. I can be a needy, whimpering, wet little mess and he adores me for it.
This year my goal is to be softer, more feminine. Which has led me to eat healthier, workout, establish personal beauty routines, and aspire to be the best version of myself I can. For both his sake and mine.
Idk why I felt like sharing, but there it is!