Couple in an LTR starting to open but overwhelmed: How do you hook up in your open relationship from start to finish?
Married and together for around 14 years now, 35M and 37M, decided this year to start opening up the relationship a bit but we both feel overwhelmed trying to figure out how the gay world works. We got together pretty shortly after coming out and have been happily monogomous and sexually satisfied, mostly doing this because we're like, why the heck not. We set our ground rules, set check ins, dotted our i's crossed our t's...
We are realizing though, that we have no "game" and no experience with attracting guys. We understand how apps and hookups work in theory, but I wonder if there is anyone out there that can share some real scenarios how they managed things like...
inviting someone as a third (where did you find them? online? with a profile together with your man?)
organizing a hookup without making your partner feel like you're spending all your time on the hunt?
finding and meeting guys (separate or alone) outside of the apps - how do you even approach guys, what do you say?!