u/Shot_Buy_4990

Hi! I am looking for a successful, attractive guy that likes to anticipate my needs & be bossed around behind closed doors. I am interested in a FLR but am still figuring out exactly what that means as it's new to me. I am flexible on location because I I have a fully remote job and am interested in slow travel to South America, US (only West Coast/NYC/Miami), Europe, ANZ, parts of Asia, etc.

***About me***

- Physically, I am conventionally attractive (gross to quantify, but I've been told 8.5/10, I'll give myself a 7-7.5?) and of European descent. I am fair and have long dark hair, straight teeth, green eyes, full lips, and an angular face. My face/hair is better than my body and I have some hangups like everyone else, but I'm reasonably ok with what I've got. I'm about 5'8 and reasonably fit looking (size 4-6).

- If you do choose to reach out, I'd appreciate you sending photos, and I will respond with photos as well 😄

- I am +++ affectionate. This is very important to me.

- Mouth noises = jail time.

- Wry/dark sense of humour and I can be witty.

- I know what I want and am not shy about it, and I'm quite good at communicating generally.

- I am generally quite even keeled as it comes to moods, though I can get a bit overwhelmed.

- I'm very highly emotionally intelligent, and value deep connection. I am very self-aware.

- I love animals. I find children annoying, especially if I don't know them. I'm iffy about having kids.

- I'm quite introverted, but am good at navigating socially. You won't have to babysit me at parties.

- I have a varied and eclectic music taste (motown, currently I like the band Rio Kosta). I'm not a fan of sports spectating.

- I care about self growth and keeping at least somewhat fit, but I can also slam back a pizza and some beers (though I am not a heavy drinker).

In an ideal world, whatever I get into next would be my forever relationship. That's where you come in!

***What I'm looking for***

- I'm curious about a soft FLR behind closed doors where I get to boss you around & you anticipate my needs. I'm curious about chastity stuff too but not essential. I've engaged with folks with foot fetishes a bit, which was fun but not essential. Also not essential: I've done some humiliation before and that was fun, but I don't like feeling like I have to act if it's not coming naturally. I don't like feeling like I have to play a role, I want to be me. This stuff takes a while to develop and I still like to be pursued during the dating process and have it look more traditional.

- You are 30-45 - I can be a bit flexible but would like someone established and of my vintage, and can also slow travel, or live somewhere I am interested in slow travelling to. I am very open to relocating.

- Physically, you are also conventionally attractive, keep fit, and are taller than me (I'm 5'8). You care about style and dressing well.

- You are also very affectionate.

- You also have a low libido or are interested in some kind of chastity play until I'm ready.

- You are well-mannered, gentlemanly, and generous.

- You are also self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and good at communicating via text and IRL. You are interested in self-growth.

- You view a relationship as a shared project that requires thought and effort to grow together and truly enjoy its beauty. You LIKE talking about the relationship and don't find it tiring. You demonstrate through action that you've listened to what someone has said to you (this is quite important esp in the FLR I'm envisioning).

- You are even tempered and don't get cranky easily.

- You are successful and have a career/education/income you are proud of, that allows a life that is flexible and stable.

- You are also iffy about having kids.

- You are feeling ready to find your forever person and get married to them.

Let me know if you're out there.

True to my bossy nature: If you reach out, please 1) let me know where you're based, 2) address how you align to what I'm looking for above, and 3) share photos when I accept, and I will do the same!

I'm just wondering if what I'm looking for even exists, but first off, a little about me. I'm from North America, but I can work from most places with wifi, and would love to live elsewhere/be nomadic via slow travel. I'm interested in South America, US (only West Coast/NYC/Miami), Europe, ANZ, parts of Asia, parts of the Middle East?

I am very curious about a female-led relationship. I am still figuring out exactly what this means and will need to figure it out as I go, but I've enjoyed dynamics where I get to be bossy and make requests, and have someone who enjoys spoiling me and making things happen.

Physically, I am conventionally attractive (gross to quantify, but I've been told 8.5/10, I'll give myself a 7-7.5?) and of European descent. I am fair and have long dark hair, straight teeth, green eyes, full lips, and an angular face. My face/hair is better than my body and I have some hangups like everyone else, but I'm reasonably ok with what I've got. I'm about 5'8 and reasonably fit looking (size 4-6). If you do choose to reach out, I'd appreciate you sending photos, and I will respond with photos as well :)

As for the rest, I'm also a big weirdo, e.g. mouth noises = jail time. I have a very wry/dark sense of humour, I know what I want and am not shy about it, and I'm quite good at communicating generally. I am generally quite even keeled as it comes to moods, though I can get a bit overwhelmed. I am +++ affectionate. I also I'm very highly emotionally intelligent, and value deep connection. I am over my party days, but can still enjoy a good cocktail every once in a while. I love animals. I find children annoying. I'm quite introverted, but am good at navigating socially. You won't have to babysit me at parties. I have a very low sex drive. I have a varied and eclectic music taste. I'm not a fan of sports spectating. I both feel like a child at 35, and have my shit together (stable income, savings etc.). I am very self-aware. I care about self growth and keeping at least somewhat fit, but I can also slam back a pizza and some beers. In an ideal world, whatever I get into next would be my forever relationship.

I'm wondering if you exist. After all my dating and relationships over the years, I know what I want, but I don't know if they exist.

Ideally you are 30-45, and live a place that I would want to move to (see above!), or you can also be fully remote with me and move from place to place every few months. You are also conventionally attractive. You are also very affectionate, but have a low sex drive, or like to be controlled in that realm until I'm ready. You are taller than me (I am 5'8). You are well-mannered & gentlemanly. You are also emotionally intelligent and self-aware of your appearance, your feelings, and your impact on others, or are doing the work to get there. You demonstrate through action that you've listened to what someone has said to you. You are aware of your relationship needs and can articulate them. You view a relationship as a shared project that requires thought and effort to grow together and truly enjoy its beauty. You LIKE talking about the relationship and don't find it tiring. You are curious about other people, and are a good communicator via text and in real life. You like spending a fair bit of time with your significant other. You are even tempered and don't get cranky easily. You have a career/education/income you are proud of, that allows a life that is flexible and stable. You are generous. You are also ambivalent about having children. You take care of yourself in terms of your mental health, your grooming/style, keeping in shape. You are not a heavy drinker. You like being with a woman who knows what she wants and is comfortable requesting it and bossing you around behind closed doors. You are interested in self growth. You are interested in travel and living other places. You are feeling ready to find your forever person and get married to them.

Let me know if you're out there. If you reach out, please share photos, and if I'm interested, I will do the same!