Hi there, I'm a just turned 30 girly that has a hard time in her regular dating life, let alone finding true compatability in the bedroom. My kinks can go pretty dark, and I don't necessarily want to participate in them all the time, but find myself always coming back to these deep desires wanting to be fulfilled. I used to think non-attachment was the way to go. I've had some dating app, and even reddit meet ups, that were technically successful, but I still haven't been able to explore the way I want to. This has brought me to see that my approach has been all wrong. The only way I can truly trust a man to do the things I want, to be able to give myself fully to him, is with deep trust, passion and connection. I don't see any other way. I'm not comfortable advertising this type of thing on dating apps, so, I'm once again taking to reddit.
The fun part, some of the things I'm into/the type of connection I want:
I really love CNC (both hard AND soft, which is important to me), the power dynamics like DDLG, Dom/Sub, Ownership, Degradation/Praise. I love all the things that come with rough fucking, like slapping, choking, hair pulling, face fucking, spanking, but I'm not into extreme harm. I'm into anal play and age play, especially with the DDLG dynamic, and I'm introing into water sports. Also adore passionate love-making, breeding and body worship on both ends. Interested in more, these are to name more than a few :P
I have had several encounters involving the kinks above, and I've found that for me, I don't like dynamics where I'm strictly an object thats owned. I want to claim and be claimed, to own and be owned, value and be valued. This is the only way I think I'll truly be able to allow a man to do the depraved things I want, and feel fulfilled by it.
The more complicated part:
So what does that mean? This will take time. Building. Trust. Compatability. Eventually, with the right person, I want something monogomous and long term. As far as non-kink dating, I don't want children, and am not interested in being legally married, but would love true commitment in a life partner. This is usually deal-breakers for most, as people in their 30's are looking to start a family and settle down. So, maybe your older, maybe you already have kids, or maybe your just like me, and don't think that type of lifestyle is in the cards for you...perhaps this could be a right fit (:
About me as a person:
I'm a 5'7 white brunette with brown hair, glasses and some tattoos. I wouldn't describe myself as petite, but I am in shape and work to take care of myself: workout several times a week and eat healthy. I love to be outside, spend time with friends and family, eat/cook delicious food, read and love to travel. I am very caring and tend to prioritize others, but I'm also sharp tongued and can have an attitude. Need someone to banter and belly laugh with, but can also tell me to shut up and stop being a brat (or punish me for it ;P).
What I'd like from you:
Someone who's down to earth, has availability to build a connection, and is willing to do so before jumping into the bedroom. Someone local to me that takes care of themselves, is active, but also knows when to relax and have down time. As far as material things, I'd like someone 5'9 or taller and in-shape (that doesn't have to mean 6 pack, I love me some stocky and husky boys, but you gotta be healthy). No preferance on ethnicity, would be great if you were handsome :P Must be willing to exchange SFW photos/facetime before meeting
If you think you may be a good fit, please message me with a description of yourself, why you think it's a good fit, and include the word "green" in your response. **Absolutely no married/not available. I want an IRL relationship.**
I realize I'm looking for a unicorn here but....let's see if the Reddit powers-that-be can't conjure one up. (: