u/SmokingJacket1867

I'm looking for a dynamic in which we can maintain a relationship outside of the kink, so I'd like to start things off slow. I've found that it's much easier to build that vital trust and comfort for play when you can maintain a simple, non-sexual conversation! I've had too many people bail on me after a single back and forth once they've got what they wanted, so if you're looking for a quick rub and go, know that isn't what I'm searching for here. I'm hoping to develop a genuine friendship and relationship that also involves kink-based fun for us both.

While I understand that this ad is probably narrowing the pool of people that would be interested by a significant margin, what I’m searching for is the right submissive, not just any submissive. A woman that I can be comfortable with enough to be me, so that I can be comfortable with enough to take on the role of Dom for them.

What I'm looking for:

• Anywhere between 26 and 43 years old is my comfort zone when it comes to age.
• UK based folks only. I'm looking for people that could potentially meet up on an easier basis, should we click! I reside in Yorkshire and can host, once mutual trust has been built up between us over multiple conversations and a few online sessions. This will take time so, again, if you aren’t interested in taking things a little slow, I’m probably not what you’re looking for.
• I mean it when I say that I want to build up a connection first! If you like what you've read so far and want to send me a message, please introduce yourself with any potential common areas you think we might share! Do you like going on a gaming spree and fancy another player to enjoy it with? Want to bring around a new board game you'd like to try out, or an old favourite you want to introduce me to? Chat about a book you've read/are writing, or binge a TV series together? Then I'm your man!
• One word DMs or those that go straight into sexual content will be ignored. As I've said, I've had too many people slide into my DMs with a line like "Would you like to do X to me?~" and then ghost me after they've had their fun. I also will not respond to accounts with blank or private profiles for similar reasons.
• When it comes to appearance, I've found tall and short woman attractive, as well as petite and voluptuous ladies. Unhelpful, I know, but I'll only know for sure if there's a spark once I've seen you. Physical attraction is a vital aspect for me when it comes to a sexual relationship; I’m not expecting to trade pictures with you until you are absolutely comfortable doing so, but understand that things won’t go too far without it. I don’t want to waste your time or string you along if the attraction isn’t there for me, or vice versa.
• Some of my favourite things to use in play are overstimulation (absolutely adore dishing this out), praise, degradation and humiliation, and impact play. I’ve never engaged in it with a partner properly before, but if you're into beta-styled role play then I would love to give that a try in some capacity! I may be willing to try more soft play, but harder kink is what I’ve found works best for me so far in my BDSM journey (I jumped into the deep end when I started exploring, haha!).

A few things about myself:

• I'm 36, about 5'6ish, average build and weight, short brown hair and beard (which are heavily speckled with white early due to genetic lottery), and wear glasses. I've been told quite often that I have a very pleasant voice to listen to, though this is obviously down to the ear of the beholder!
• I appreciate honesty and forthrightness since I have a hard time reading between the lines and catching subtext, and will offer you the same in kind. I'm easy-going and enjoy listening to and telling stories, so being able to click conversationally is a must, and I'm more than happy to listen to others if they need to vent. I can get quickly drained by multiple social interactions, but I will always tell you when I need time to recharge.
• I'm heavily introverted and I much prefer to stay indoors, so if your vision of a good time is going out partying or crowded group settings, I'm not your guy. I'm also unable to travel very far, which is why I offer to host. If you're a fellow introvert, that would be a major bonus! We can complain about forced social interactions together.
• I'm dorky. No way around it, it's just what I am and I make no apologies for it. I'm a huge fan of: fantasy and sci-fi media such as LotR or Warhammer 40k, board games (though I rarely get to play them), D&D and other TTRPGs, and video games. I also love to write, but solely as a hobby.
• On the kink side of things, I'd say that I'm a service dominant; I enjoy using various tools, toys and acts to bring a submissive partner pleasure, more-so than receiving physical pleasure for myself. I could honestly spend an entire scene fully clothed and untouched, and derive just as much gratification focusing solely on my partner! I'm happy to go along with most of a submissive's kink needs once trust has been built, though I have limits I won't cross (mainly toilet and blood play). Everything else we can chat about!

And that's me. If you think we could build up something together, then I look forward to hearing from you!

I'm looking for a dynamic in which we can maintain a relationship outside of the kink, so I'd like to start things off slow. I've found that it's much easier to build that vital trust and comfort for play when you can maintain a simple, non-sexual conversation! I've had too many people bail on me after a single back and forth once they've got what they wanted, so if you're looking for a quick rub and go, know that isn't what I'm searching for here. I'm hoping to develop a genuine friendship and relationship that also involves kink-based fun for us both.

While I understand that this ad is probably narrowing the pool of people that would be interested by a significant margin, what I’m searching for is the right submissive, not just any submissive. A woman that I can be comfortable with enough to be me, so that I can be comfortable with enough to take on the role of Dom for them.

What I'm looking for:

• Anywhere between 26 and 43 years old is my comfort zone when it comes to age.
• UK based folks only. I'm looking for people that could potentially meet up on an easier basis, should we click! I reside in Yorkshire and can host, once mutual trust has been built up between us over multiple conversations and a few online sessions. This will take time so, again, if you aren’t interested in taking things a little slow, I’m probably not what you’re looking for.
• I mean it when I say that I want to build up a connection first! If you like what you've read so far and want to send me a message, please introduce yourself with any potential common areas you think we might share! Do you like going on a gaming spree and fancy another player to enjoy it with? Want to bring around a new board game you'd like to try out, or an old favourite you want to introduce me to? Chat about a book you've read/are writing, or binge a TV series together? Then I'm your man!
• One word DMs or those that go straight into sexual content will be ignored. As I've said, I've had too many people slide into my DMs with a line like "Would you like to do X to me?~" and then ghost me after they've had their fun. I also will not respond to accounts with blank or private profiles for similar reasons.
• When it comes to appearance, I've found tall and short woman attractive, as well as petite and voluptuous ladies. Unhelpful, I know, but I'll only know for sure if there's a spark once I've seen you. Physical attraction is a vital aspect for me when it comes to a sexual relationship; I’m not expecting to trade pictures with you until you are absolutely comfortable doing so, but understand that things won’t go too far without it. I don’t want to waste your time or string you along if the attraction isn’t there for me, or vice versa.
• Some of my favourite things to use in play are overstimulation (absolutely adore dishing this out), praise, degradation and humiliation, and impact play. I’ve never engaged in it with a partner properly before, but if you're into beta-styled role play then I would love to give that a try in some capacity! I may be willing to try more soft play, but harder kink is what I’ve found works best for me so far in my BDSM journey (I jumped into the deep end when I started exploring, haha!).

A few things about myself:

• I'm 36, about 5'6ish, average build and weight, short brown hair and beard (which are heavily speckled with white early due to genetic lottery), and wear glasses. I've been told quite often that I have a very pleasant voice to listen to, though this is obviously down to the ear of the beholder!
• I appreciate honesty and forthrightness since I have a hard time reading between the lines and catching subtext, and will offer you the same in kind. I'm easy-going and enjoy listening to and telling stories, so being able to click conversationally is a must, and I'm more than happy to listen to others if they need to vent. I can get quickly drained by multiple social interactions, but I will always tell you when I need time to recharge.
• I'm heavily introverted and I much prefer to stay indoors, so if your vision of a good time is going out partying or crowded group settings, I'm not your guy. I'm also unable to travel very far, which is why I offer to host. If you're a fellow introvert, that would be a major bonus! We can complain about forced social interactions together.
• I'm dorky. No way around it, it's just what I am and I make no apologies for it. I'm a huge fan of: fantasy and sci-fi media such as LotR or Warhammer 40k, board games (though I rarely get to play them), D&D and other TTRPGs, and video games. I also love to write, but solely as a hobby.
• On the kink side of things, I'd say that I'm a service dominant; I enjoy using various tools, toys and acts to bring a submissive partner pleasure, more-so than receiving physical pleasure for myself. I could honestly spend an entire scene fully clothed and untouched, and derive just as much gratification focusing solely on my partner! I'm happy to go along with most of a submissive's kink needs once trust has been built, though I have limits I won't cross (mainly toilet and blood play). Everything else we can chat about!

And that's me. If you think we could build up something together, then I look forward to hearing from you!

I'm looking for a dynamic in which we can maintain a relationship outside of the kink, so I'd like to start things off slow. I've found that it's much easier to build that vital trust and comfort for play when you can maintain a simple, non-sexual conversation! I've had too many people bail on me after a single back and forth once they've got what they wanted, so if you're looking for a quick rub and go, know that isn't what I'm searching for here. I'm hoping to develop a genuine friendship and relationship that also involves kink-based fun for us both.

While I understand that this ad is probably narrowing the pool of people that would be interested by a significant margin, what I’m searching for is the right submissive, not just any submissive. A woman that I can be comfortable with enough to be me, so that I can be comfortable with enough to take on the role of Dom for them.

What I'm looking for:

• Anywhere between 26 and 43 years old is my comfort zone when it comes to age.
• UK based folks only. I'm looking for people that could potentially meet up on an easier basis, should we click! I reside in Yorkshire and can host, once mutual trust has been built up between us over multiple conversations and a few online sessions. This will take time so, again, if you aren’t interested in taking things a little slow, I’m probably not what you’re looking for.
• I mean it when I say that I want to build up a connection first! If you like what you've read so far and want to send me a message, please introduce yourself with any potential common areas you think we might share! Do you like going on a gaming spree and fancy another player to enjoy it with? Want to bring around a new board game you'd like to try out, or an old favourite you want to introduce me to? Chat about a book you've read/are writing, or binge a TV series together? Then I'm your man!
• One word DMs or those that go straight into sexual content will be ignored. As I've said, I've had too many people slide into my DMs with a line like "Would you like to do X to me?~" and then ghost me after they've had their fun. I also will not respond to accounts with blank or private profiles for similar reasons.
• When it comes to appearance, I've found tall and short woman attractive, as well as petite and voluptuous ladies. Unhelpful, I know, but I'll only know for sure if there's a spark once I've seen you. Physical attraction is a vital aspect for me when it comes to a sexual relationship; I’m not expecting to trade pictures with you until you are absolutely comfortable doing so, but understand that things won’t go too far without it. I don’t want to waste your time or string you along if the attraction isn’t there for me, or vice versa.
• Some of my favourite things to use in play are overstimulation (absolutely adore dishing this out), praise, degradation and humiliation, and impact play. I’ve never engaged in it with a partner properly before, but if you're into beta-styled role play then I would love to give that a try in some capacity! I may be willing to try more soft play, but harder kink is what I’ve found works best for me so far in my BDSM journey (I jumped into the deep end when I started exploring, haha!).

A few things about myself:

• I'm 36, about 5'6ish, average build and weight, short brown hair and beard (which are heavily speckled with white early due to genetic lottery), and wear glasses. I've been told quite often that I have a very pleasant voice to listen to, though this is obviously down to the ear of the beholder!
• I appreciate honesty and forthrightness since I have a hard time reading between the lines and catching subtext, and will offer you the same in kind. I'm easy-going and enjoy listening to and telling stories, so being able to click conversationally is a must, and I'm more than happy to listen to others if they need to vent. I can get quickly drained by multiple social interactions, but I will always tell you when I need time to recharge.
• I'm heavily introverted and I much prefer to stay indoors, so if your vision of a good time is going out partying or crowded group settings, I'm not your guy. I'm also unable to travel very far, which is why I offer to host. If you're a fellow introvert, that would be a major bonus! We can complain about forced social interactions together.
• I'm dorky. No way around it, it's just what I am and I make no apologies for it. I'm a huge fan of: fantasy and sci-fi media such as LotR or Warhammer 40k, board games (though I rarely get to play them), D&D and other TTRPGs, and video games. I also love to write, but solely as a hobby.
• On the kink side of things, I'd say that I'm a service dominant; I enjoy using various tools, toys and acts to bring a submissive partner pleasure, more-so than receiving physical pleasure for myself. I could honestly spend an entire scene fully clothed and untouched, and derive just as much gratification focusing solely on my partner! I'm happy to go along with most of a submissive's kink needs once trust has been built, though I have limits I won't cross (mainly toilet and blood play). Everything else we can chat about!

And that's me. If you think we could build up something together, then I look forward to hearing from you!