u/TheSpeee

Something I’ve noticed of late is the way in which blame is apportioned when things go wrong in D/s, or rather, the working assumptions about who is to blame for a failure of communication, or somebody getting hurt. Essentially, it seems to boil down to:

If a scene goes wrong, it’s the fault of the top/dominant

If a dynamic goes wrong, it’s the fault of the submissive.

Obviously, these are both massive overreductions: RACK/PRICK principles place responsibility on both parties for both things, but barring exceptional cases, this seems to be the going assumption.

Does this match your impression of the culture? Again, fully aware that neither assumption matches the complex reality, but Theres power in assumptions and narratives.