hey there so hear me out- All my life its vanilla sex but currently I'm not sexually active in my long term relationship, I usually just please myself and then I realized that I start to think Vanilla sex is overrated. but heck -- when I discovered Bondage recently, I just can't stop thinking about it and researching about it.
My problem is my partner and I are not active anymore (relationship is too long and many complicated shit because of life itself)
Is this normal? I'm female and on my late 30s and I feel so overwhelmed and sensitive nowadays more than I was before. I'm trying to find a solution that is convenient for me because its driving me crazy on certain days.
Any advise?
Note: Dropping this here because my real life will just shut me down if I asked advise from them lol.