u/Vathy

37 [M4F] #NYC #US - Soft-ish dom yearning for a TPE based, still seeking long term relationship with someone younger that is sure of what she wants as much as I am!

I'm here because I consider myself to be a bit of a soft-ish dom that has been seeking a DDlg centered dynamic (that ultimately can build as a foundation towards a TPE, M/s level dynamic ideally!) with someone younger. I just have simply had to search for a decent bit because the most difficult thing to find has been someone who is available and consistent to talk to. If you feel like you have that level of energy to offer, please keep reading!

I am someone who has craved a dynamic that can grow into IRL (with this starting online being okay as long as we actually integrate activities that allow us to see each other (like video calls, I have no idea why this is so hard to find) to build chemistry) and I feel like I have a lot of time and energy to give, so I've been seeking someone who wants to match that together.

So to lay it all out there, this is what I'm looking for (ideally)!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. and now I'd like my chance to experience what I've always wanted).

  • Someone who is available. I think the absolute most thing towards building a genuine, strong dynamic from the ground up, is availability. I am honestly tired of all the people who talk once a week, I don't know how anyone thinks that gets a dynamic anywhere, but I need more than that. Please, I don't think this is a unreasonable request.

  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.

  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.

  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.

  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.

  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I would be more than happy to send one myself as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a dynamic (such as ddlg for example) should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude who has a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat!

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u/Vathy — 8 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC #US - Soft-ish dom who knows what he wants seeking an ultimately TPE, still seeking an in person dynamic with someone younger, looking for long term relationship!

I'm here because I consider myself to be a bit of a soft-ish dom that has been seeking a DDlg centered dynamic (that ultimately can build as a foundation towards a TPE, M/s level dynamic ideally!) with someone younger. I just have simply had to search for a decent bit because the most difficult thing to find has been someone who is available and consistent to talk to. If you feel like you have that level of energy to offer, please keep reading!

I am someone who has craved a dynamic that can grow into IRL (with this starting online being okay as long as we actually integrate activities that allow us to see each other (like video calls, I have no idea why this is so hard to find) to build chemistry) and I feel like I have a lot of time and energy to give, so I've been seeking someone who wants to match that together.

So to lay it all out there, this is what I'm looking for (ideally)!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. and now I'd like my chance to experience what I've always wanted).

  • Someone who is available. I think the absolute most thing towards building a genuine, strong dynamic from the ground up, is availability. I am honestly tired of all the people who talk once a week, I don't know how anyone thinks that gets a dynamic anywhere, but I need more than that. Please, I don't think this is a unreasonable request.

  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.

  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.

  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.

  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.

  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I would be more than happy to provide one as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a dynamic (such as ddlg for example) should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude who has a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat!

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u/Vathy — 8 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC

hi! I'm here because after not feeling appreciated for the effort I put into what I give to make something work (and of course, availability being difficult once more to find), I'm on the search again hoping to find someone who wants a relationship (and means it!) as much as I do where we yearn for a similar dynamic after reading this. If availability is NOT your strong suit, please do NOT reach out. I also want to add here that, if my long term goals (including having a family) are NOT a part of your wants, also please do NOT reach out. I can't believe I have to say this, but I am tired of people reaching out only wanting a part of who I am, not all of who I am.

Anyways, I'm writing this out because I'm happy with almost all aspects of my life, where I live a very chill day to day, but I'm still yearning for that feeling of finding my special someone. I'm here though because while I'm not in a rush, I've yet to find a match. If my title makes sense to you and you know exactly what I'm saying, please read on!

I'm here (as I hope many real women on here that browse are too), because I'm looking for that younger woman that is looking for something long term, with someone that loves conversation (as much as I do), that wants to spend time with me (fine starting online, but I need this to be in person sooner than later) doing things we both enjoy, and knows this is what she wants. I am tired, absolutely exhausted, of all the women I have had conversations with over the years that (and I do consider those past relationships successful!) keep changing everything I knew about them on me and leaving me to start over from step 1. If you know what you want and want to get it, read on!

So! This is what I'm looking for!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. I worked hard to be where I am now, so it's my turn to go get what I want).
  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.
  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.
  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.
  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.
  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I would be more than happy to provide a photo as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a relationship should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude with a tech job, a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat

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u/Vathy — 8 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC/US - Still looking for what I hope is my last relationship, would love to connect (online to start fine) for an ultimately, in person dynamic with someone younger

hi! I'm here because after not feeling appreciated for the effort I put into what I give to make something work (and of course, availability being difficult once more to find), I'm on the search again hoping to find someone who wants a relationship (and means it!) as much as I do where we yearn for a similar dynamic after reading this. If availability is NOT your strong suit, please do NOT reach out. I also want to add here that, if my long term goals (including having a family) are NOT a part of your wants, also please do NOT reach out. I can't believe I have to say this, but I am tired of people reaching out only wanting a part of who I am, not all of who I am.

I'm here (as I hope many real women on here that browse are too), because I'm looking for that younger woman that is looking for something long term, with someone that loves conversation (as much as I do), that wants to spend time with me (fine starting online, but I need this to be in person sooner than later) doing things we both enjoy, and knows this is what she wants. I am tired, absolutely exhausted, of all the women I have had conversations with over the years that (and I do consider those past relationships successful!) keep changing everything I knew about them on me and leaving me to start over from step 1. If you know what you want and want to get it, read on!

So! This is what I'm looking for!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. I worked hard to be where I am now, so it's my turn to go get what I want).
  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.
  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.
  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.
  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.
  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I'll be more than happy to share one as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a relationship should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude with a tech job, a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat!

reddit.com
u/Vathy — 8 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC/US - Still looking for what I hope is my last relationship, would love to connect (online to start fine) for an ultimately, in person dynamic with someone younger

hi! I'm here because after not feeling appreciated for the effort I put into what I give to make something work (and of course, availability being difficult once more to find), I'm on the search again hoping to find someone who wants a relationship (and means it!) as much as I do where we yearn for a similar dynamic after reading this. If availability is NOT your strong suit, please do NOT reach out. I also want to add here that, if my long term goals (including having a family) are NOT a part of your wants, also please do NOT reach out. I can't believe I have to say this, but I am tired of people reaching out only wanting a part of who I am, not all of who I am.

I'm here (as I hope many real women on here that browse are too), because I'm looking for that younger woman that is looking for something long term, with someone that loves conversation (as much as I do), that wants to spend time with me (fine starting online, but I need this to be in person sooner than later) doing things we both enjoy, and knows this is what she wants. I am tired, absolutely exhausted, of all the women I have had conversations with over the years that (and I do consider those past relationships successful!) keep changing everything I knew about them on me and leaving me to start over from step 1. If you know what you want and want to get it, read on!

So! This is what I'm looking for!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. I worked hard to be where I am now, so it's my turn to go get what I want).
  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.
  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.
  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.
  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.
  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I'll be more than happy to share one as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a relationship should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude with a tech job, a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat!

reddit.com
u/Vathy — 15 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC

hi! I'm here because after not feeling appreciated for the effort I put into what I give to make something work (and of course, availability being difficult once more to find), I'm on the search again hoping to find someone who wants a relationship (and means it!) as much as I do where we yearn for a similar dynamic after reading this. If availability is NOT your strong suit, please do NOT reach out. I also want to add here that, if my long term goals (including having a family) are NOT a part of your wants, also please do NOT reach out. I can't believe I have to say this, but I am tired of people reaching out only wanting a part of who I am, not all of who I am.

Anyways, I'm writing this out because I'm happy with almost all aspects of my life, where I live a very chill day to day, but I'm still yearning for that feeling of finding my special someone. I'm here though because while I'm not in a rush, I've yet to find a match. If my title makes sense to you and you know exactly what I'm saying, please read on!

I'm here (as I hope many real women on here that browse are too), because I'm looking for that younger woman that is looking for something long term, with someone that loves conversation (as much as I do), that wants to spend time with me (fine starting online, but I need this to be in person sooner than later) doing things we both enjoy, and knows this is what she wants. I am tired, absolutely exhausted, of all the women I have had conversations with over the years that (and I do consider those past relationships successful!) keep changing everything I knew about them on me and leaving me to start over from step 1. If you know what you want and want to get it, read on!

So! This is what I'm looking for!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. I worked hard to be where I am now, so it's my turn to go get what I want).
  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.
  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.
  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.
  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.
  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I would be more than happy to provide a photo as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a relationship should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude with a tech job, a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat

reddit.com
u/Vathy — 15 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC #US - Soft-ish dom who knows what he wants seeking an ultimately TPE, still seeking an in person dynamic with someone younger, looking for long term relationship!

I'm here because I consider myself to be a bit of a soft-ish dom that has been seeking a DDlg centered dynamic (that ultimately can build as a foundation towards a TPE, M/s level dynamic ideally!) with someone younger. I just have simply had to search for a decent bit because the most difficult thing to find has been someone who is available and consistent to talk to. If you feel like you have that level of energy to offer, please keep reading!

I am someone who has craved a dynamic that can grow into IRL (with this starting online being okay as long as we actually integrate activities that allow us to see each other (like video calls, I have no idea why this is so hard to find) to build chemistry) and I feel like I have a lot of time and energy to give, so I've been seeking someone who wants to match that together.

So to lay it all out there, this is what I'm looking for (ideally)!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. and now I'd like my chance to experience what I've always wanted).

  • Someone who is available. I think the absolute most thing towards building a genuine, strong dynamic from the ground up, is availability. I am honestly tired of all the people who talk once a week, I don't know how anyone thinks that gets a dynamic anywhere, but I need more than that. Please, I don't think this is a unreasonable request.

  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.

  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.

  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.

  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.

  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I would be more than happy to provide one as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a dynamic (such as ddlg for example) should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude who has a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat!

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u/Vathy — 15 days ago

37 [M4F] #NYC #US - Soft-ish dom yearning for a TPE based, still seeking long term relationship with someone younger that is sure of what she wants as much as I am!

I'm here because I consider myself to be a bit of a soft-ish dom that has been seeking a DDlg centered dynamic (that ultimately can build as a foundation towards a TPE, M/s level dynamic ideally!) with someone younger. I just have simply had to search for a decent bit because the most difficult thing to find has been someone who is available and consistent to talk to. If you feel like you have that level of energy to offer, please keep reading!

I am someone who has craved a dynamic that can grow into IRL (with this starting online being okay as long as we actually integrate activities that allow us to see each other (like video calls, I have no idea why this is so hard to find) to build chemistry) and I feel like I have a lot of time and energy to give, so I've been seeking someone who wants to match that together.

So to lay it all out there, this is what I'm looking for (ideally)!

  • A younger woman (I don't care if the gap is small, but this is important to me because I spent my 20s with older and I'm over the egos and age held over me for the wrong reasons. and now I'd like my chance to experience what I've always wanted).

  • Someone who is available. I think the absolute most thing towards building a genuine, strong dynamic from the ground up, is availability. I am honestly tired of all the people who talk once a week, I don't know how anyone thinks that gets a dynamic anywhere, but I need more than that. Please, I don't think this is a unreasonable request.

  • Someone talkative! I really enjoy voice and video calls, and doing activities during these calls. I have nothing to hide, and while I don't need these often, I don't want to not have them at all, either.

  • Someone open to biological children. I want to be a great, loving dad as my parents were to me. I have the means to handle it and I want to find someone seeking similar.

  • Someone open to relocation. Again, I've worked hard for what I have to be able to offer this. You will not have to worry long term about me, but I have done the moving thing once and, well, I can't drag my house with me.

  • Someone open to marriage. I'm not religious per se (though I grew up with it), but I want to be monogamous in every way and this is something I've dreamt about.

  • Someone open to sharing a sfw photo (of yourself, not of someone else please!). This means that I would like to see a full, sfw photo. I would be more than happy to send one myself as well! I do however admit, that I am an opposites attract kind of guy, so I do have an attraction to someone white, asian, european, chinese, korean, but since I've dated all sorts (white, black, etc), this isn't a hard dealbreaker.

As for what I actually want a relationship to look like? To me, that's someone who enjoys being equally nerdy just as much as someone who likes being taboo. For example, I'm into:

  • Mutual degradation when it comes to age gaps. I love being "degraded" for being the older man (even if I'm not actually that much older), so if you're into ddlg/cgl and are comfortable in a sexual little/middle space, front of the line! Happy to explain further, though I am open to like, literally anything in this regard!
  • Someone that believes that a dynamic (such as ddlg for example) should be free flowing. While I do NOT want to be sexual off the bat necessarily, I want to know that there's at least an openness to talking about intimacy at some point since chemistry does matter (and I'd like to find out sooner rather than later after invest 2-4 months just to realize it isn't there)
  • While I'm happy to go on, I of course really really want to spend quite a lot of time enjoy sfw things together, but I don't want to make this much longer than it needs to be, heh. I'd love to talk more about myself beyond what I share on here (and learn about you) privately!

I understand its a little direct to make a detailed post like this, but I've been having to search for as long as I have because it seems finding someone on the same page is excruciatingly difficult and I am just trying to save us both time.

Otherwise, to share more about me, I'm a pretty nerdy dude who has a place, I feel like I'm really easy to talk to (and I love the hell out of video games as much as board games). i love talking about sports and trying anything new twice (mostly). I've been to 20 states and I'd love to add more places to travel to!

If you think we'd click and the honesty and openness does it for you, I'd love to chat!

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u/Vathy — 15 days ago