u/cuckedbybbchubby

I Recently opened up to my wife about my cuck fetish and honestly I was shocked by how into it she was right away.

At first there was a situation involving a coworker she was interested in, but we both agreed not to jump straight into anything real and to slow down, roleplay first, communicate properly, and be patient about it.

When I first explained what I find hot about cucking, she understood a lot of it immediately. The dynamic, the humiliation aspect, her being desired, me watching, her being sexually uninhibited without judgment, all of that. She found it exciting.

A few days ago we did our first actual roleplay session using one of her biggest toy. It was a JOI / edging / SPH type thing. It was awkward for the firstfew minutes but once we settled into it, it got really intense.

She was surprisingly good at it and seemed extremely turned on by the dynamic.

But afterward she told me that
Even though she enjoyed the fantasy and the roleplay, she said she struggles to understand why I’d want it to happen for real with another man involved. In her mind that is a very humiliating and emasculating experience for me. She said she worries that if she saw me willingly submit to another man sexually and let him use her as his, especially someone whos bigger, it could permanently change the way she sees me as a husband.

She basically said she’s afraid it would damage her image of me as a protector/provider type and make her lose some direct attraction to me, even if the kink itself turned her on.

But she also said that at the same time she would definitely want to experience a real bull and toys alone wouldn’t be enough if we keep going down that road

Has anyone had a similar conversation with his wife/partner?

[UPDATE]:

We’ve talked again about it today, we didn’t have time yesterday to sit down for that conversation I started by telling her I got a bit freaked out from her reaction

She said that first of all she does fantasise about having sex with someone with a bigger dick, it’s not new we already discussed that in the past and we bought bigger toys but she said that with cucking it’s exciting to perhaps try a real one because she never had sex with someone who was above average she said that she enjoys sex with me and she doesn’t think I’m too small or anything like that (I’m average as well) but the idea of a big cock is exciting and she does enjoy the bigger toys a lot

She said she wouldn’t be open to having threesomes with other women or me cucking her with other women, she said she doesn’t feel comfortable with that idea and I explained it’s not something that I want to do

She asked many more questions about the humiliation aspects and if I want that because of something she did to me and I explained to her that I had this fetish for a long time and it didn’t start with her

The first half of the conversation was very easy and open and we discussed a lot of the “technical” aspects of the fetish and what we feel about it

And then I brought up the “Josh situation”
She said she saw that I got hurt by her bringing him up and asked why, I explained that I was hurt because she had this emotional affair with him even if it was one sided and she never filrted with him or anything and there’s baggage between us because of that and her getting so excited about having sex with him after she already told me she stopped thinking about him felt like it was a lie and that she kept having those feelings for him, and just in general that she jumped to him and him only when I talked about it

She said that she didn’t think about him in the recent months and that she thought I was hinting about him when talking about the fetish, i asked what made her think that because I explicitly said that I don’t want anyone we know to know about it and that it should be something private, she said that he “fits the bill”
I asked what it meant, she said that he’s good looking and tall and muscular and hung and that he’s perfect as a “bull” (she referenced the videos I showed her)

I asked how she knows he’s hung, she said that a friend at work that had sex with him told her about it, and this is what started her fantasies about him, I didn’t know that fact she hasn’t told me previously, she said she didn’t tell me that because it wouldn’t have changed anything except hurting me even more but now that I told her that I’m into cucking that there isn’t any reason to hide that fact

But she said that the friend loves to exaggerate about things and that maybe Josh isn’t really hung but it’s been something she thought about a lot and wanted to find out if it’s true and it’s a part of the reason she got excited yesterday.

I told her I’m not comfortable with that and it’s a dangerous line to cross and that all I want to do now is just take it slow and roleplay and explore it carefully

She agreed and apologised for hurting my feelings
And reiterated that she doesn’t have any romantic feelings or thoughts about Josh at all and doesn’t find him interesting even as a friend and it was purely sexual and that she wants me to rethink my objection about him because she would love to explore that but she respects my wishes and wouldn’t do anything without full approval

And that’s it

ORIGINAL POST:

I’ve had the cuck fantasy ever since I was a teen
I’ve always fantasised about that and watched porn related to cucking exclusively

Ive been with my wife for 5 years now and I never shared my fetish with her

Our sex life is.. ok, a bit boring and vanilla, she’s just vanilla in general without a high sex drive
I’ve tried to sort of hint about cucking before but afraid to be explicit, she didn’t really pick up on that

Today I decided to just go for it and share my fetish with her, told her what it is, showed a porn video as an example and told her that I love her and don’t want someone replacing me as a partner or anything like that and that I love her and it’s just a sexual fantasy
About seeing her with a bull

I thought the two possible scenarios is that might react poorly and won’t understand it or even be hurt by the fact that I fantasize about it

Or that she’ll try to be understanding and polite to not hurt my feelings

But.. she liked the idea, she said she thinks it’s hot
She said it’s exciting and asked if it means I want her to have sex with Josh(fake name) her colleague which she told me she was attracted to in the past and we had a big fight about it

She started asking many questions and it was like she’s eager to start fucking with other men and I wasn’t prepared for it

I never thought about it being real
It made my stomach hurt and I felt so bad and jealous
I’m not sure I’m really ready for that or even want that

And I feel like I opened a dam that I can close now

We ended the conversation in the middle because I had to go pick up a friend

Idk what to do now