Don't know what to do with this whale
I've been seeing a big whale over the last few months. I'm currently based in Austria, Europe. At first everything was perfect, and he has been covering at least 80% of my monthly income.
On trips, he can easily spend somewhere between 18k–20k between what he pays me and everything else. For Europe, that's quite a lot. He tends to spend more on the overall lifestyle, to be honest, than on my direct payment. It sometimes gives off more of a *wannabe sugar daddy* dynamic rather than a clear escort arrangement.
Lately, I can't stand having sex with him anymore. He also has a porn addiction, he might need to have videos playing while he's with me, and after multiple tries, positions, and quite aggressive penetration, he still can't even finish.
Not only that, he's extremely big. He also has a very recognizable smell that I honestly can't stand, and he insists on a lot of intense eye contact during sex. Ireduced the amount of sex in our last meeting by half, which he noticed because he couldn’t finish, so he also cut down what he spent.
I still can’t find a version of this arrangement that feels sustainable long-term, but at the same time I can’t afford to lose all this money.
How do you deal with “whale” clients who spend a lot but also consume a disproportionate amount of energy? Especially when their spending is more lifestyle-based rather than direct compensation?