Are we submissive sugar daddies and sons
It is debatable if someone sends = submissive. There are plenty of people who give money to someone in exchange for sex and attention and it’s often between a wealthier man who does this to be with younger women who are conventionally attractive.
So what’s the difference in findom? It’s guys sending money in exchange for someone to interact with them and often take a topping role and telling them what to do. Does me paying someone to tell me to workout have any difference than me hiring a personal trainer to do the same? Is my personal trainer the dominant in this case?
How do you define dominance? What’s the difference between dominance and submission? Especially in a place where someone is paid to do something?
I’m asking this because I’m not sure if I’m actually “submissive.” I don’t feel “dominant” or “submissive” when paying for something since it feels like bribery.
I get turned on when I send money to someone who’s gorgeous and tops me, but I’ve also been turned on doing the same for an irl sub who bottoms for me.
I started findom a month ago and find that if I send more money, a domme accommodates me more and then it feels like I’m topping from bottom but because I send, they try to actively please me.
Hence, I decided to make a post asking the community.