Chemistry issues
After a week of searching, I think the issue is chemistry when it comes to finding a domme. There’s a lot of people who have great personalities, but someone who feels like your best friend from minute 1 is exceedingly rare.
A lot of dommes will unconsciously try to “dom” when you first start talking or try to move you through the tribute assembly line asap and it makes it hard to gauge personality.
I feel bad for just leaving if someone starts treating me like a customer but I’m not here to buy clips, I’m here to surrender power and money and a 5 minute conversation around what my kinks are is not enough time for me to flesh out your personality and for you to vet me as a person.
I don’t think I should pay to ask you about your hobbies, if you have goals outside findom, etc.