Took one girl serious and got my time wasted
Need some advice on how to handle this kind of thing next time.
I’m dating multiple women, feel like I’m in the prime of my single phase but connected with one so hard that I was willing to be tied down to her. Multiple dates, lots of sex, the whole thing. She would always compliment me nonstop and tell me how I was so different from other guys (because I showed a lot of effort with her, opening her door, things like that.)
A few years ago she lost her daughter as an infant. The anniversary was right before Mother’s Day and she always refers to herself as a mother so I wanted to be thoughtful and got her beautiful flowers, some treats, and a card. Said she loved them (over text). She told me it was a rough period and she likes to isolate and disappear when she’s depressed. Naturally we started texting less.
Here we are 2 weeks later, I would send a check in text (not needing a reply) every other day. But past few days she’s been on social media and hanging out with friends, following new guys, and she hasn’t replied to me in a week so I assume I’m being slow faded. Fortunately my other options still want to see me, they actually get upset at me when I can’t see them more often. But for this girl I wanted to see her so often, as she did with me too until this.
Next time I wanna take someone serious, should I just show way less effort? Or did I just get unlucky this time? Shit sucks