u/jmeverden

My wife struggles with two things, and I’m hoping for suggestions. She has a fear of being heard or “caught,” even though we usually have the TV on, the kids are asleep or away, and it’s late at night or early in the morning.

The first issue is that she gets very close to climax but then immediately pulls away or moves the toy so it doesn’t happen. After that, we have to spend time building back up because she needs a break. I’m not sure whether we should keep doing what we’re doing or if there’s a better way to help her feel comfortable enough to let go.

The second issue is her fear that the kids will hear her, even with background noise. She’s asked for something to bite down on to help her stay quiet. She doesn’t want to use a blanket or pillow, and I have not asked her to do the panties. I doubt she’d want anything with straps or complicated design like a gag ball but I’ve not asked her. I’m open to any suggestions that you might have.

We’re looking for some guidance on exploring g-spot. We recently purchased a stainless‑steel wand (Njoy wand), but my wife felt intimidated by it. I made the mistake of trying to introduce it too early, before she was fully aroused, and it caused some discomfort. That experience made her hesitant to try again. I’m open to suggestions on how we can approach this more gently and comfortably.

We’ve experimented with a variety of items over the past eight months, and my wife tends to prefer combinations that allow for multiple types of stimulation at once. I would love for g-spot to eventually be enjoyable on its own so that we can explore different options and experiences. Any advice is appreciated.