u/johanlibert001

One month ago, I made a post here about a girl in my office building who used to look at me and smile at me a lot. I ended up finding her Instagram and sending her a follow request. She never accepted it, and later the request disappeared. Most people here told me I messed up by trying social media first instead of just talking to her in person.

Now it’s been about a month since then, and honestly, things have changed a lot.

We work in different offices but in the same building, so we cross paths during lunch breaks, coffee breaks, etc. Recently I’ve noticed she actively looks for me when I’m around. If we make eye contact, she smiles genuinely. My brother has even noticed that she keeps checking where I am whenever she’s nearby.

A few days ago, she actually waved goodbye to me properly when leaving. The thing is, all these interactions happen only when she’s alone. Whenever she’s with her group, she acts more reserved.

The problem is I still can’t properly talk to her because she’s almost always with friends or coworkers, sometimes even guys. One time we finally ended up alone near a shop after the person with her left, and I thought this was my chance to start a conversation. But she suddenly seemed nervous, picked up her phone, pretended to be on a call, walked around for a bit, and then left. But before that, she was clearly looking at me while approaching.

So now I’m confused.

The vibes between us definitely feel better than before, and it feels like there’s mutual interest, but neither of us is actually breaking the barrier and talking.

How do I take this to the next level without making it awkward again, especially after the Instagram follow request already failed once?

Should I directly approach her even if she’s with her group, or should I keep waiting for a more natural one-on-one moment?

One month ago, I made a post here about a girl in my office building who used to look at me and smile at me a lot. I ended up finding her Instagram and sending her a follow request. She never accepted it, and later the request disappeared. Most people here told me I messed up by trying social media first instead of just talking to her in person.

Now it’s been about a month since then, and honestly, things have changed a lot.

We work in different offices but in the same building, so we cross paths during lunch breaks, coffee breaks, etc. Recently I’ve noticed she actively looks for me when I’m around. If we make eye contact, she smiles genuinely. My brother has even noticed that she keeps checking where I am whenever she’s nearby.

A few days ago, she actually waved goodbye to me properly when leaving. The thing is, all these interactions happen only when she’s alone. Whenever she’s with her group, she acts more reserved.

The problem is I still can’t properly talk to her because she’s almost always with friends or coworkers, sometimes even guys. One time we finally ended up alone near a shop after the person with her left, and I thought this was my chance to start a conversation. But she suddenly seemed nervous, picked up her phone, pretended to be on a call, walked around for a bit, and then left. But before that, she was clearly looking at me while approaching.

So now I’m confused.

The vibes between us definitely feel better than before, and it feels like there’s mutual interest, but neither of us is actually breaking the barrier and talking.

How do I take this to the next level without making it awkward again, especially after the Instagram follow request already failed once?

Should I directly approach her even if she’s with her group, or should I keep waiting for a more natural one-on-one moment?

One month ago, I made a post here about a girl in my office building who used to look at me and smile at me a lot. I ended up finding her Instagram and sending her a follow request. She never accepted it, and later the request disappeared. Most people here told me I messed up by trying social media first instead of just talking to her in person.

Now it’s been about a month since then, and honestly, things have changed a lot.

We work in different offices but in the same building, so we cross paths during lunch breaks, coffee breaks, etc. Recently I’ve noticed she actively looks for me when I’m around. If we make eye contact, she smiles genuinely. My brother has even noticed that she keeps checking where I am whenever she’s nearby.

A few days ago, she actually waved goodbye to me properly when leaving. The thing is, all these interactions happen only when she’s alone. Whenever she’s with her group, she acts more reserved.

The problem is I still can’t properly talk to her because she’s almost always with friends or coworkers, sometimes even guys. One time we finally ended up alone near a shop after the person with her left, and I thought this was my chance to start a conversation. But she suddenly seemed nervous, picked up her phone, pretended to be on a call, walked around for a bit, and then left. But before that, she was clearly looking at me while approaching.

So now I’m confused.

The vibes between us definitely feel better than before, and it feels like there’s mutual interest, but neither of us is actually breaking the barrier and talking.

How do I take this to the next level without making it awkward again, especially after the Instagram follow request already failed once?

Should I directly approach her even if she’s with her group, or should I keep waiting for a more natural one-on-one moment?