u/johndavddj

It's been only a few months since I got married to my wife who has been my girlfriend for 3 years. But the changes it brought are significant.

First of all, the frequency and manner of my orgasms are decided by my wife. I am not even allowed to touch myself. I can request her for an orgasm but it is entirely her decision to grant me one or not. This has led to me associating every sexual thought or even an erection, to my wife.

I also started asking her permission to finish when I am nearing an orgasm. When she says yes I then thank her. This happens just before I climax and that really puts me in deep sub space.

Most of the chores in the house are being done by me now. It used to be almost 50-50, give or take, at the beginning of our relationship. The shift from there began a year ago before our wedding. Cleaning the bathroom is 100% my duty. Washing the dishes is again 100% my duty. Preparing food is somewhat balanced since she likes to cook. Other chores like laundry, vacuuming, mopping, making the bed are done by me 90% of the time.

The inspiration for this post came a couple of days ago on our day off. I was in the kitchen preparing our lunch while my wife was in the bedroom doing some paper work. I had loaded the washing machine and folded last day's clothes before coming to the kitchen. Just then two amazon packages were delivered, one for each of us. I picked them up from the front door and brought her package to the bedroom. It was some stationery and a book. I went back to the kitchen and opened my box, which contained a bottle of kitchen cleaning detergent. I went back to work and a minute later the realisation set in. The roles in the house are now clearly different. Anyone witnessing our daily life would definitely know that we are not in a conventional marriage.

While I was having that train of thoughts, I slowly realised I was smiling. I was feeling happy and warm. I was also having a semi-erection which was a surprise because until that moment I didn't realise doing chores was turning erotic to me.

All this made me want to do more for her. I realised that the opportunity to serve her is one of the best things I have received in this relationship. Dedicating my time and energy and sacrificing my comfort for her is so emotionally rewarding. The more I serve her, the stronger is the urge to dedicate more and more time and energy for her. And sacrificing my needs, comfort or choices for her makes me feel more submissive and humble towards her.

It's been only a few months since I got married to my wife who has been my girlfriend for 3 years. But the changes it brought are significant.

First of all, the frequency and manner of my orgasms are decided by my wife. I am not even allowed to touch myself. I can request her for an orgasm but it is entirely her decision to grant me one or not. This has led to me associating every sexual thought or even an erection, to my wife.

I also started asking her permission to finish when I am nearing an orgasm. When she says yes I then thank her. This happens just before I climax and that really puts me in deep sub space.

Most of the chores in the house are being done by me now. It used to be almost 50-50, give or take, at the beginning of our relationship. The shift from there began a year ago before our wedding. Cleaning the bathroom is 100% my duty. Washing the dishes is again 100% my duty. Preparing food is somewhat balanced since she likes to cook. Other chores like laundry, vacuuming, mopping, making the bed are done by me 90% of the time.

The inspiration for this post came a couple of days ago on our day off. I was in the kitchen preparing our lunch while my wife was in the bedroom doing some paper work. I had loaded the washing machine and folded last day's clothes before coming to the kitchen. Just then two amazon packages were delivered, one for each of us. I picked them up from the front door and brought her package to the bedroom. It was some stationery and a book. I went back to the kitchen and opened my box, which contained a bottle of kitchen cleaning detergent. I went back to work and a minute later the realisation set in. The roles in the house are now clearly different. Anyone witnessing our daily life would definitely know that we are not in a conventional marriage.

While I was having that train of thoughts, I slowly realised I was smiling. I was feeling happy and warm. I was also having a semi-erection which was a surprise because until that moment I didn't realise doing chores was turning erotic to me.

All this made me want to do more for her. I realised that the opportunity to serve her is one of the best things I have received in this relationship. Dedicating my time and energy and sacrificing my comfort for her is so emotionally rewarding. The more I serve her, the stronger is the urge to dedicate more and more time and energy for her. And sacrificing my needs, comfort or choices for her makes me feel more submissive and humble towards her.