u/jondoesearching2

I know it sounds desperate but Ive had no luck here recently. Im not new to this but I took a year long break, up until a few months ago and I feel like I've just hit a brick wall between ghosting, unrealistic time zones or schedules just not lineing up. Ive tried gimmicky posts, genuine posts, pretty much everything aside from the resume style posts which I hate. It just feels like people don't really want to talk. With that said I guess I'll go the route of the latter with this one and hope whoever you are, wherever you turn up.

Stats-

Married 11 years

2 children

3 dogs (pictures available upon request)

2 cats

6'0"

208lbs

Hair: Brown

Eyes: Blue

Neat trimmed beard

Intrests-

Music specifically emo, punk, indie with a splash of folk. Work, Im a successful buisness owner and I love being able to provide for my team and customers. Live entertainment anything from music and stand up to boardway and magic. Im a sucker for amusement parks specifically disney, universal and some local parks. I Like Video games but I rarely have time for them, that doesn't stop me from collecting though. Legos, they really got me with the 18+ branding. I love doing things with my kids, camping, fishing, hiking, exploring. Football, GO BIRDS!. I love cooking and also trying new restraunts, I guess that just means I love food. Good whiskey, the occasional cigar. Fixing broken things. And honestly just being goofy.

What Im looking for-

Something long term, exclusive and real. I see a lot of post asking for a "medium burn" that sounds nice. Someone that has enough respect to not ghost. Someone I find attractive nothing personal, but BBW isnt my thing. I dont need crazy skinny though either though mom bods and general hwp people are welcome. I want to get to really know someone and feel comfortable with them the kind of thing where over time the anonymity falls away and things become personal. I want someone emotionally mature but someone that can also be a dork. Id love to make and exchange playlists so similar music taste would be awesome.

Thats alot and I dont think you have to be alllllll of those those things just enough that I dont feel like Im settling. Anyway here's to hoping again! Kay, love you, bye!

Repost because after I shared this yesterday it got taken down from the sub I originally posted due to being a "story"....which admittedly, it is. So without further ado, I present to you the tale of how I once fell for the girl down the road.

I met her 2 years ago while trick or treating in our neighborhood, our boys were friends and noticed eachother so we ended up linking up for the evening. We talked they went door to door gathering candy, and at the end of it all exchanged numbers for play dates and the like. That evening she texted inviting us to a Halloween party. My wife wasnt interested so it was just the kids and myself. I got to see how she was around other other people and her deminer blew me away. During that party I found out that she was single, divorced a few years back. She played a game with all the kids where she let them wrap her up like a mummy in plastic wrap and she had do get out in a certain time. The whole thing was so joyous. She was having fun laughing the kids were having a blast, and all I could think about is how my wife could never have that level of silly playfulness.

That night we drank and played board games with the kids until they eventually settled into the living room watching a movie leaving us alone at the kitchen table half drunk. We were the last guest and stayed for probably an hour after everyone else had gone. I asked her about her divorce, and the tattoos she had gotten afterwards, each one seemingly random but holding deeper meaning. It turns out her husband cheated on her and left her to be with another mom down the street essentially destroying 2 family's at once. We never did anything more then talk but the night was the start of everything. The kids got together often and texts for kids play and pick up turned in to hours long back in forth about everything and anything. Somtimes random small talk other times deeper and more intimate. Never anything sexual. This went on for almost a year I never tried to make anything more of it, and given her past I knew she never would either. At the same time the emotional connection was there and it was real. Im sure she felt the same way but she was to close to home, flirt with fire and you can burn down your house. So I made a point to distance myself. Now when we talk its straight to the point and drop offs are in and out. But I miss it. I miss that connection. Its been a year and I want something to take its place and fill that void I have in my life. But I want it to feel safe and not so close to home. Is that something you want too? Maybe if we play our cards right we could be that for eachother, we just have to find one another first.