u/kastrasub

I just read a post that was sooo insightful. One about findom as a cope for loneliness. I could relate a lot.
I guess i haven‘t been dating for a while now, eventho i usually have no problems attracting girls i find attractive I’d say. Still not talking to girls and being in a relationship does leave a bit of a void and findom is lowkey an effective (maybe not healthy) filler for that. It allows me to feel wanted/useful to attractive girls and be a part of their day, even if it‘s in a quite humiliating way, which i guess just adds a bit of spice to it.
Why are you in findom?

So i just calculated my all time spending on findom and I’m a bit shocked… small sends do kinda add up i guess
Now I’ve tried to get away from it all a couple of times and have usually relapsed fairly quickly. For some of you that have experience… is it smarter to kinda leave gradually or go just 100 to 0 starting now?

I want to give my credit card infos to a domme. If i only give the numbers… will it remain anonymous? Are dommes into that?

Edit: It‘s only a prepaid card with not too much on it… Ik it works online without the name

Something just happens to me around this time at night that makes me want to goon, send and do shit I’ll regret later. I hate it, but I love it so much i always come back.

Finding a new domme each time is really hard and time consuming but it‘s so worth it when i find one for the evening-drain.

„unethical“ dommes are the best.

I‘m 21 and go to college, i usually get along great with my dommes cuz we can relate actually have convos etc… that often makes it suddenly feel like a friendship more than anything else. Suddenly she‘ll start saying thank you a lil bit too often for what i do, tell me that i don‘t HAVE to do xyz or even worse tells me she feels bad being mean to me and wants to just spend time with me.

Don‘t get me wrong, i LOVE dommes that i have a real connection with but its so sad when a good dynamic loses the terrifying feeling of being taken advantage of, being manipulated, fear of being exposed or anticipation of what degrading task i have to do next.

I get that some dommes prefer the friendship kinda dynamic, some subs might too, but it‘s just not for me… I’m still looking for that but i still have hope in finding her<3

Like as a sub it‘s obvious that findom is hot and makes you horny, at least on our side of the dynamic. But do you as a domme find it hot to get sent to? Like (sorry if this is tmi) like sexually hot? Cuz I’ve never heard of a domme that like… yk does IT to being sent to, but it would sure be hot imo hahaha