I’m a college student who is about to graduate (22F) that has frequented this space, and my roommate is attempting to get involved in the sugar baby/daddy lifestyle.
She’s sexually inexperienced (virgin) and has just turned 18 years old a couple months ago. She’s been talking to multiple guys through SA who are in their 30s-40s, and she’s settled on this mid-40s guy. She met with him yesterday, and she said he doesn’t have any red flags (not pushy, didn’t touch her, will wait for the 4th date). Said she feels comfortable sleeping over on the 3rd date. She’s really confused as to why she’s doing this and said that she’d rather be with someone who treats her well and knows what he’s doing. All her young friends are encouraging this (who don’t follow this lifestyle obviously), and I’ve been trying to discuss the potential repercussions this is going to have on her life emotionally and sexually. I told her just to at least wait a couple years, as this seems like the type of thing that you cringe at years later (I fear I had a similar experience, but it wasn’t this serious whatsoever, and I’m still like “wtf was I doing?”)
I advised her that at the very least she should get perspectives from those who maintain sugar daddy/baby relationships, but she doesn’t understand Reddit, so I’m posting on her behalf. Ultimately, it’s up to her, but I don’t feel great about this.
Does you guys have any advice? Thank you in advance. Feel free to downvote, upvote, comment, etc. I’ll take anything
Edit: She lied and told him she’s not a virgin for further context. Wanted me to add that she explicitly told him that she’s not going to have sex until she’s comfortable and hinted that it’ll eventually happen down the line.