u/livvycook128

I’ve recently started seeing a guy who told me he has no experience at all. He has never kissed or been with anyone before. I, on the other hand, am quite experienced and comfortable with that. The dynamic I’m used to is being more on the passive side. I’m typically the one being pursued rather than the one leading or initiating.

Because of that, I’ve never really had to teach someone or explain things during sex. We slept together for the first time a few days ago, and while it wasn’t bad, it also wasn’t particularly amazing. He’s genuinely open to learning, which I appreciate, but I’m not sure how to guide him in a way that feels natural and confident for me.

For example, I tried explaining that he doesn’t need to hold himself in a rigid plank position during missionary. He can kneel and get comfortable, but I struggled to get the point across in a way he understood.

I want to help him improve, but I’m not sure how to step into that role without feeling awkward or overly critical. Please help, I want to enjoy sex with him and want him to enjoy it too.