Wanting for figure out the best way to balance fantasy with risk when inviting a third.
As you can tell from the title, I (we - I have a boyfriend) are trying to find a realistic balance while fulfilling fantasies.
Although I would say our fantasies kind of fit into bdsm genre, we definitely are not interested in all facets of it. We have some pretty specific interests.
I don’t know how to categorise them exactly but to give you an idea..
He takes me to the garden shed when it’s raining, strips me and chains me to a bicycle and leaves me there for around an hour. He has left me in a section of woodland near a car park at night in only my underwear while he has gone to pick up food for us and then came and picked me up.
And the most recent was on a trip we took to Bruges, we stayed in a hostel with a shared bathroom and for two days I was only allowed to clean my teeth and put on makeup if I was only wearing my underwear.
That’s it for the exhibition/ exposure type stuff so far. Another thing we like is saliva/ spit. Sometimes instead of giving like a hello peck on the lips when we meet up somewhere or just kissing casually at home it’s more like a hello spit. Like not full on footballer spitting on the ground, just like blowing a cute little saliva bomb into someone’s mouth or dribbling. We do this in public, have done it in restaurants and in front of his friends which once resulted in me being told to spit in his friend’s mouth multiple times on a night out. I’ve also lapped up both his saliva and cum from tiled or hardwood flooring.
The remaining bdsm type stuff I would say is mainly relatively hard spanking, controlling my outfits (I have a pretty sheer dress he told me to wear and go sit at a bus stop at night until two buses had come past), free use.
So, I understand these are probably pretty mild compared to some things but I think there are some specific themes.
One of the more emerging themes is involving other people.. which obviously could involve me being in exposed/ vulnerable situations and possibly alone with others. Which is indescribably exciting and also intimidating. Obviously the risk factor is part of the excitement but under certain situations I can imagine that it would be a very good idea to have real limits on what could happen.
If anyone has experiences/ tips/ how to build trust/ even if you’re someone who has broken rules or trust before I’d like to know what caused that.
If you’re just someone who feels like they like the same things as we do and would be interested in creating some kind of connection then also please dm me :)