how to get better at sex?
I 24f have been in a relationship with my bf 28m for 3 years. There were a few issues when we first started having sex that i think really lowered my confidence at the time but even since getting past that we still just don’t have very good sex. I’ve been in relationships before this one and i was always a very spontaneous, adventurous, try anything once type of person when it came to sex. I used to have sex daily and love getting on top, giving blowjobs, trying new positions, etc. That said, it seems like we just can’t get there or maybe he doesn’t want to which is upsetting for me because i want to do all these things but i feel like we’re both just bored with sex and he doesn’t really care to change that. I just want to feel sexy and confident again and i want to feel like i’m satisfying my partner but any time i tried getting on top or going down on him he just didn’t really seem to like it. I told him i could use some constructive criticism or if he does like it some positive reinforcement but that just made him awkwardly fake moan to try to make me feel better. Now it’s gotten to the point where we only have sex like once a month in the same position, no foreplay, no snuggling up after, just in and out.
If anyone has any tips on anything i can do to try to get him excited about sex again? I’ve tried lingerie, strip poker, getting all dressed up and making a fancy dinner and drinks, spontaneous blowjobs, etc. (I think maybe i’m just bad at bjs? I used to really love to give them because i thought i was good at it but i must not be so i guess any tips there too)
I don’t know how much more i can make a fool of myself here trying to seduce my own boyfriend. My confidence is basically shot and i’m getting close to just giving up on ever having a good sex life again. I’ve been trying for years