u/pup_b34r

hey there guys. for context, i’m ftm21 and my husband is m22, and we started our relationship with me as a pup and him as my owner. we’ve been married for two wonderful, happy years, but i’ve been really struggling with our sexual dynamics as of late. i’ve always been very submissive, and i still am, but i struggle with knowing when it’s appropriate for me to want to be submissive in bed and when my husband needs me to take control. i have no problem being dominant when it comes to play outside of sex, but i feel like i keep fucking it up as soon as things get sexual. my husband has expressed to me that while he likes it when i dominate him, he doesn’t think it makes me happy, so he tries not to explicitly ask for it. this is making me feel even worse since my biggest concern when i try dominating him sexually is that i’m not making him feel good and happy. i’ve been dominant with exes and never gotten as nervous about it before i met him. we talk about our boundaries, our feelings, and our fantasies often and we haven’t had a problem with this until the past three months. i want to learn how to be a better dominant for him. any advice? tips on how to get over myself and fuck him like he deserves? i do really want to do it, but i feel like i don’t remember how to do it right.