u/qwerty432112

Moans are an absolute turn-on for me. Unfortunately, my wife is much more subtle with her moans at least with me. It still turns me on to see her breathing hard, gripping my arm or hair hard as she cums from me rubbing her clit or pussy or when eating her out, but she doesn't let out much noise in terms of moans.

Sometimes I fantasize her being with someone else who makes her moan like a slut making me see her in a different different light and watching her be a whole different person with them, maybe that's a girl or guy who brings out this inner slut out of her.

For those in the lifestyle and/or have experienced it, I'm curious to hear how often does your wife/gf show different reactions when she's with you vs with the 3rd person? Most common things that come to my mind are moaning differently or being more enthusiastic in expressions and trying new things or being more submissive/dominant?

Does the differences in how she acts with you vs the others just turn you on seeing her like that and makes you to want to continue seeing her more guys or does it make you feel jealous that she acts so differently sometimes?

If it's the latter, how have you dealt with it as a couple?

I keep coming back to a fantasy of listening in on my wife from outside the bedroom door as she's getting intimate with someone else (perhaps a total stranger or maybe even someone we'd know or maybe even more taboo than that).

While I'm a visual person and the sight of watching my wife take on another cock and seeing her expressions would be mind-blowing, there's just something about listening in and being somewhat present in the area but unable to watch it, that would let my imagination run wild about what's happening inside with every little noise I'd hear.

Maybe it's the soft noises of dresses being removed or the sounds of kissing, maybe even sounds of grunting and wet slurping, the sounds of bed creaking, and the unmistakable sounds of moans that grow louder and louder, the dirty talk and screaming during orgasms.

I would be imagining her being fucked all sorts of ways and in every hole or her moaning louder without restraint from being fucked by someone bigger and thicker, someone who uses her petite body like a sex doll and doesn't care to be soft but just letting her body experience waves of pleasure non-stop making her mind go blank and desire nothing but for that moment to not end.

Whenever I've fantasized about my wife being with another guy, most times I just visualize it from her perspective of getting pleasured.

Sometimes I've wondered where I would want to be in that situation.

1. Would I want to be listening from outside the door or through a phone call as it happens? Maybe to give her privacy so that she could enjoy the moment and be fully present with the other guy and not have to behave or act a certain way as to not upset me.

2. Would I want to be in the same room and watch them do it so that I'm just as involved in it? Maybe there's a safety part that my wife knows if something were to happen that she didn't want, I'd step in to protect her.

3. Unaware of it as it happened and then learn about it from my wife later as she tells me the details from her perspective and how each part felt as I'm reclaiming her.

While I'm a visual person and the sight of watching my wife take on another cock and seeing her expressions would be mind-blowing each time, my imaginations running wild make me think that listening in and being somewhat present in the area but unable to watch it would be the hottest for me.

As all I would get from my senses would be the noises I would hear from inside the room, I could imagine her being fucked all sorts of ways and in every hole or moaning differently due to the pleasure of being fucked differently than I usually do it and know she's getting satisfied thoroughly.

To give context, my wife's very much a conservative person, has never dressed in anything that would show off her skin and has always been reserved to not draw attention to herself or to get any comments on her body since she's a bit self-conscious about her body.

To be honest though, her body is simply amazing (especially her boobs) but she's grown a bit of a tummy that'a caused her to feel like she has to hide the rest of her body in very loose fitting clothes to adjust for it.

I've recently noticed a change in her behavior where she's been starting to get a bit more bold with her dresses where she's started to wear shorts that show off her amazing legs and sleeveless dresses.

The reason I bring it up is because, seeing as how reserved and shy she's always been, watching her show off her skin and body in these dresses have been an incredible turn-on for me, especially when I notice other guys sometimes staring at her.

Now she's turned it up a bit more and would come out of the bathroom is just her bra and panties and sometimes just change her bra and show off her perfect tits as she does it. The exciting part is that we always leave the curtains open and there's a house very close and they also leave their curtains open that we can somewhat see into each others houses.

I frequently imagine if she's been so daring in changing her clothes with the open curtains because she feels just as excited by the possibility that someone in the other house could be staring at her as she's changing or while she's in her underwear. I do hope that she continues this tradition and maybe soon in the future, we'd leave the curtains open as we're both sprawled, fully naked, tangled in each other's bodies and giving a fantastic show for whoever's watching.

While imagining and fantasizing about my wife in this lifestyle, it's almost always been about her enjoying the actual sex parts of it and feeling full from being penetrated and satisfied and have numerous orgasms from just the rough sex.

In real life though, with me and my wife, most of what we usually do is just foreplay and it feels very intimate. The light kisses on her neck, touching her waist and letting my hands explore her body, teasing touches on her chest before circling her boobs, switching from kisses to sucking on her neck, grabbing her boobs before lightly touching and twisting her nipples, dropping my hands to her pussy and touching and rubbing her to orgasm.

However, I'm wondering what it'll feel like watching someone else more experienced doing the same foreplay to my wife and making her feel even more pleasured than I ever could. Would it feel worse knowing that my wife is being shared in a way more intimate way than just sex or would it just be an opportunity to learn from that experienced person and find new ways to pleasure my wife that I've not considered before?

I’ve always had this fantasy of sharing my wife and watching her get railed by someone who can go hard for a long period, making her cum multiple time uncontrollably.

However, it’s never been something to try out in real life due to the consequences and negative aspects if something went wrong.

But I’ve fantasized about her dipping her toes into this by maybe interacting with strangers online and potentially escalating to sexting with them. Maybe then one day, she might open up to exhibition and teasing other guys with her amazing body in real life during every day moments.

For those in the LS or dipped their toes into it, did you start off with purely online interactions first or have now limited to just online sexting with strangers and other guys?

What was it like at first to read those messages and interactions with other guys and how was it after it escalated to sexting?

Would it be a reasonable way to experience parts of this lifestyle without the physical experience if that’s where we draw the line?