u/rommell2024

Seeking a partner who is traditional in values, defers to male leadership without misogyny, kink-friendly, naturally submissive, and has an adventurous spirit. I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, PhD educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. Interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. Trauma informed, and sober. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy.

I'm a few years out of a long term marriage (zero baggage) and have been dating; however, I haven't found the authentic and shared intimacy possible by more serious commitment to a babygirl. I believe in community, values, America, and living an authentic life free of hang-ups, hate, resentment and fear. I practice secular spirituality and my partner will also be value driven. Service to others whether it be animals, nature, or people gives life meaning and my partner will participate with me in these endeavors.

I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason so not worried about your location initially as I seek depth over convenience. I'm a provider, and while not overly materialistic, I maintain a rather comfortable lifestyle. If you have a profession or job that's fine but work is optional for me. What I don't want is someone so career driven they don't make time for me.

You:

- Serious intent, have yourself together enough that you can invest in a relationship, reasonably attractive and take care of yourself

- Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, but over 25.

- Sex positive, kink friendly, submissive, playful

- Willing to exchange pics, compatibility check, ensure there is shared chemistry, meet IRL, date, and move into a committed relationship leading to co-habitation and marriage.

If interested, respond with your age, location and a bit about yourself so we can get this adventure started.

So why the emphasis on spirituality? Because sex and BDSM is a form of spirituality for me, a blending of the masculine and feminine, a connection that runs deeper than sex, and with the right partner it is electric. I am on the hunt for a serious dynamic that is based on experiences rather than performative bdsm kinks.

I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, PhD level educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy. Trauma informed, and sober. Interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. At my core, however, I am a spiritual being with deep core beliefs who enjoys authentic connection. I practice a blend of Stoicism and Buddhism, and at times have engaged in pagan rituals. Yes I can also read your Tarot cards.

I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason, so here we are - my spiritual quest for a like minded partner. My requirements are that you have serious intent, are reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Open minded and an outdoor lover. Witches, empaths, psychics, wiccans, and the free-spirited to the front.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. I seek substance not convenience, so location is of secondary importance. Willing to travel especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

So why the emphasis on spirituality? Because sex and BDSM is a form of spirituality for me, a blending of the masculine and feminine, a connection that runs deeper than sex, and with the right partner it is electric. I am on the hunt for a serious dynamic that is based on experiences rather than performative bdsm kinks.

I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, PhD level educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy. Trauma informed, and sober. Interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. At my core, however, I am a spiritual being with deep core beliefs who enjoys authentic connection. I practice a blend of Stoicism and Buddhism, and at times have engaged in pagan rituals. Yes I can also read your Tarot cards.

I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason, so here we are - my spiritual quest for a like minded partner. My requirements are that you have serious intent, are reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Open minded and an outdoor lover. Witches, empaths, psychics, wiccans, and the free-spirited to the front.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. I seek substance not convenience, so location is of secondary importance. Willing to travel especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

So why the emphasis on spirituality? Because a relationship is a form of spirituality for me, a blending of the masculine and feminine, a connection that runs deeper than sex, and with the right partner it is electric. I am on the hunt for a serious dynamic that is based on experiences rather than performative bdsm kinks.

I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, PhD level educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy. Trauma informed, and sober. Interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. At my core, however, I am a spiritual being with deep core beliefs who enjoys authentic connection. I practice a blend of Stoicism and Buddhism, and at times have engaged in pagan rituals. Yes I can also read your Tarot cards.

I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason, so here we are - my spiritual quest for a like minded partner. My requirements are that you have serious intent, are reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Open minded and an outdoor lover. Witches, empaths, psychics, wiccans, and the free-spirited to the front.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. I seek substance not convenience, so location is of secondary importance. Willing to travel especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

I need a partner I can invest my time, energy, and resources - my reward is your submission, loyalty, and watching you evolve. I am on the hunt for a long term babygirl that has the potential for permanent. I don't neatly fit into any of the various r4r categories, agegap, kink, bdsm, ddlg. What I seek is a blend of all. A relationship is an exploration of possibilities based on aligned sexuality, interests and goals. I am much more than an experienced Dom, I am a professional, PhD educated, a community leader, a divorced father, and have varied personal interests. I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason and bring you to me at the appropriate time. When I find the right one, I will make her mine.

I embrace the rules based structure and discipline of BDSM and it has served me well both in dynamics as well as my personal and professional life. My role is to challenge you to be your best, while understanding when you fall short. I don't expect perfection, nor do I need a well trained submissive with years of experience - I am not programming a sex robot, rather I am discovering your strengths while providing guidance with your best interests at heart. You will accept me as your mentor because I have deep experience and I am objectively successful.

Kink: I am experienced at creating both a psychologically and intentional dynamic. I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, some DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. It is an important facet of who I am but will not completely define our relationship. I vibe best with sex positive partners who appreciate the intimacy available in a healthy dynamic. I don't neatly fit into any label as my style is both classic Dominant and Daddy Dom. I am highly structured and disciplined yet not a micromanager.

Me: I am physically attractive, patient yet firm, self-employed with flexibility in travel and schedule. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, backcountry hiking, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing. Both sober and trauma informed, teach mindfulness and meditation classes in my spare time. I am the real deal and check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

Requirements: Serious intent. Reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, and having yourself together enough to commit to building a relationship. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Not looking for a dirty secret rather someone I can integrate into my life at some point. A girl who is ready to move into something stable and sustained while still fun and exciting. Eventual exclusivity and co-habitation.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. I seek substance not convenience, so location is of secondary importance. Willing to travel especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

I am successful by most measures, PhD educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. Happily divorced with a teen daughter who lives with me. Seeking an enthusiastic submissive where both our needs are met. I require a degree of emotional connection, more than a hookup, less than a marriage.

Attributes:

• attractive, fit, healthy physically and mentally, happy
• high sex drive and stamina
• put together, emotionally intelligent, sober, trauma informed
• experienced Dominant with power dynamics, CNC, impact play, spanking, orgasm training, immersive roleplays, some DDlg and much more
• have plenty of toys and how to use them properly
• Vanilla interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing.

I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

Requirements

• willingness to communicate off Reddit
• reasonably attractive, take care of yourself, sane and emotionally stable
• willingness to follow a structured process including mutual ground rules, limits/boundaries, and communicate between IRL meets without micromanaging
• a degree of emotional connection, more than a hookup, less than a marriage

I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. Experienced at crafting scenes including creating the right energy and hosting at a safe location. Willing to travel for the right partner, especially those with potential for an ongoing dynamic. I prefer those located near Memphis, Nashville, Birmingham, Huntsville, Chattanooga areas. Respond with a short description, location, age, and your kink experience level.

I am successful by most measures, PhD educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. Happily divorced with a teen daughter who lives with me. Seeking an enthusiastic submissive where both our needs are met. I require a degree of emotional connection, more than a hookup, less than a marriage.

Attributes:

• attractive, fit, healthy physically and mentally, happy
• high sex drive and stamina
• put together, emotionally intelligent, sober, trauma informed
• experienced Dominant with power dynamics, CNC, impact play, spanking, orgasm training, immersive roleplays, some DDlg and much more
• have plenty of toys and how to use them properly
• Vanilla interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing.

I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

Requirements

• willingness to communicate off Reddit
• reasonably attractive, take care of yourself, sane and emotionally stable
• willingness to follow a structured process including mutual ground rules, limits/boundaries, and communicate between IRL meets without micromanaging
• a degree of emotional connection, more than a hookup, less than a marriage

I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. Experienced at crafting scenes including creating the right energy and hosting at a safe location. Respond with a short description, location, age, and your kink experience level.

I am experienced Dom with a specialty in psychological play. PhD educated with training in trauma based therapies. Seeking a partner who enjoys kinky roleplay that transitions from online to IRL scenarios. I find this type of dynamic cathartic and fulfilling for both my partner and myself.

Imagine establishing a relationship with your therapist, you are both heard and seen, even validated at times. You know he has your best interest at heart even when he brings up uncomfortable truths. There is emotional safety and trust. Then the subtle shift, as he asks probing questions about your sexual history, takes a keener interest in your relationship dynamics. You feel yourself opening up in ways you never have even about trauma without judgment. Then he suggests a therapy that seems a bit unconventional, yet you are intrigued and after all isn't he here to help you...

Me: I am physically attractive, patient yet firm, self-employed with flexibility in travel and schedule. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, backcountry hiking, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing. Both sober and trauma informed, teach mindfulness and meditation classes in my spare time. I find this type of play both cathartic and fulfilling for both myself and partner. I am the real deal and check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

Requirements

• available to communicate off Reddit and build the appropriate energy before any IRL meets
• reasonably attractive, take care of yourself, but no other physical preferences; age isn't as important as emotional intelligence
• serious intent and follow through, no one likes a partner who is enthusiastic online but bails on actual meets
• I am safe, sane, ddf and expect the same

Logistics

I am well experienced at crafting scenes including creating the right energy and hosting at a safe location. Willing to travel for the right partner, especially those with potential for multiple ongoing therapy sessions. I prefer those located near Memphis, Nashville, Birmingham, Huntsville, and Chattanooga areas. Will consider others based on suitability for kink therapy. Respond with a short description, including location, age, and any previous mental health diagnoses. I have a vetting process to ensure compatibility.

I am on the hunt for a long term babygirl that has the potential for permanent. I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. Interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. Trauma informed, and sober. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy. I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered. I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason and bring you to me at the appropriate time.

Kink: I am experienced at creating both a psychologically and intentional dynamic. I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, some DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. It is an important facet of who I am but will not completely define our relationship. I vibe best with sex positive partners who appreciate the intimacy available in a healthy dynamic. My style is both classic Dominant and Daddy Dom and I have found the character traits that make me a good Dominant have also served me well in life. I don't work at being confident, assertive, mindful, emotionally restrained, disciplined, rather I am these things and carry them with me at all times.

Requirements: Serious intent. Reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, and having yourself together enough to commit to building a relationship. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Not looking for a dirty secret rather someone I can integrate into my life at some point. A girl who is ready to move into something stable and sustained while still fun and exciting. Eventual exclusivity.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. Willing and able to travel to most areas in the SouthEast and other areas in US that interest me, especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

I need a babygirl I can invest my time, energy, and resources to better both of us - my reward is your submission, loyalty, and watching you evolve. I embrace the rules based structure and discipline of BDSM and expect the same in you - I am much more than a bedroom fantasy. Rather, I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. Trauma informed, and sober. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy. I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

So why Reddit? First, I find vanilla relationships too superficial and I have met some kindred spirits here. Second, I am patient, while we will start slow my intent is to find a permanent partner thus casting a wider net is needed. Third, logistics are of secondary importance as I value depth over convenience. Plus I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason and bring you to me at the appropriate time. When I find the right one, I will make her mine.

Kink: I am experienced at creating both a psychologically and intentional dynamic. I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, some DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. It is an important facet of who I am but will not completely define our relationship. I vibe best with sex positive partners who appreciate the intimacy available in a healthy dynamic. I don't neatly fit into any label as my style is both classic Dominant and Daddy Dom. Although I am neither a micromanager nor misogynistic, I am highly structured and disciplined.

Requirements: Serious intent. Reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, and having yourself together enough to commit to building a relationship. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Not looking for a dirty secret rather someone I can integrate into my life at some point. A girl who is ready to move into something stable and sustained while still fun and exciting. Eventual exclusivity and co-habitation, possible marriage but that takes time and sustained effort from both. Open to gf/fwb in the meantime. I have two college aged children who are very important to me, so be family friendly.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. Willing to travel between Asheville, Nashville, Huntsville, Chattanooga, Memphis and other areas in US that interest me, especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

I need a partner I can invest my time, energy, and resources to better both of us - my reward is your submission, loyalty, and watching you evolve. I embrace the rules based structure and discipline of BDSM and expect the same in you - I am much more than a bedroom fantasy. Rather, I am well rounded, emotionally intelligent, educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/travel/diversity and writing. Trauma informed, and sober. I have mastered life's challenges and while I don't claim enlightenment, I am certainly healthy both mentally and physically, successful by most measures, and happy. I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

So why Reddit? First, I find vanilla relationships too superficial and I have met some kindred spirits here. Second, I am patient, while we will start slow my intent is to find a permanent partner thus casting a wider net is needed. Third, logistics are of secondary importance as I value depth over convenience. Plus I am at a point where I have the freedom and discretion to travel within reason and bring you to me at the appropriate time. When I find the right one, I will make her mine.

Kink: I am experienced at creating both a psychologically and intentional dynamic. I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, some DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. It is an important facet of who I am but will not completely define our relationship. I vibe best with sex positive partners who appreciate the intimacy available in a healthy dynamic. I don't neatly fit into any label as my style is both classic Dominant and Daddy Dom. Although I am neither a micromanager nor misogynistic, I am highly structured and disciplined.

Requirements: Serious intent. Reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, and having yourself together enough to commit to building a relationship. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. Not looking for a dirty secret rather someone I can integrate into my life at some point. A girl who is ready to move into something stable and sustained while still fun and exciting. Eventual exclusivity and co-habitation, possible marriage but that takes time and sustained effort from both. Open to gf/fwb in the meantime. I have two college aged children who are very important to me, so be family friendly.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. Willing to travel between Asheville, Nashville, Huntsville, Chattanooga, Memphis and other areas in US that interest me, especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

I seek an independent young woman, possibly in school or working, navigating life the best you can. You have your vanilla friends even boyfriends who show interest. Yet everything seems so superficial, the banter, the hours of mindless activities that don't really leave you fulfilled. Something is missing. You wonder what it would be like to truly be seen, your dreams, your fears, your flaws, nothing hidden. You fantasize about a man who sees all this with an eye on what you could become, who both encourages and supports you, challenging you to fully step out into the world. You crave the guidance of an accomplished, emotionally intelligent man who has mastered life's challenges.

I am happy when you are at your best and understand when you fall short. You will call me Daddy and it will be more than a bedroom fantasy, it will have meaning and weight as will our dynamic. Sometimes it calls for discipline, a stern look, spanking, a punishment. Other times, a surprise, a small gift, an impromptu trip. You have a deep need to please and know I have your best interest in mind. You will trust me like no other and in time surrender your mind, body, and soul. My ability to connect and build deep intimacy is crucial to the experience. In short, we will have a meaningful relationship that incorporates a healthy level of kink. If this resonates with you then let's talk.

Me: I am successful by most measures and no nonsense -- my style is intentional and psychologically grounded to create a meaningful dynamic. Professionally, I am PhD educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. I am physically attractive, patient yet firm, self-employed and have flexibility in travel and schedule. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing. Emotionally intelligent, mature, trauma informed, and sober. Kink wise, I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, some DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

Requirements: Serious intent. Reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, and having yourself together enough to commit to building a relationship. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. I seek substance not convenience, thus location is of secondary importance.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. Willing to travel between Asheville, Nashville, Huntsville, Chattanooga, Memphis and other areas in US that interest me, especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.

I seek an independent young woman, possibly in school or working, navigating life the best you can. You have your vanilla friends even boyfriends who show interest. Yet everything seems so superficial, the banter, the hours of mindless activities that don't really leave you fulfilled. Something is missing. You wonder what it would be like to truly be seen, your dreams, your fears, your flaws, nothing hidden. You fantasize about a man who sees all this with an eye on what you could become, who both encourages and supports you, challenging you to fully step out into the world. You crave the guidance of an accomplished, emotionally intelligent man who has mastered life's challenges.

I am happy when you are at your best and understand when you fall short. You will call me Daddy and it will be more than a bedroom fantasy, it will have meaning and weight as will our dynamic. Sometimes it calls for discipline, a stern look, spanking, a punishment. Other times, a surprise, a small gift, an impromptu trip. You have a deep need to please and know I have your best interest in mind. You will trust me like no other and in time surrender your mind, body, and soul. My ability to connect and build deep intimacy is crucial to the experience. In short, we will have a meaningful relationship that incorporates a healthy level of kink. If this resonates with you then let's talk.

Me: I am successful by most measures and no nonsense -- my style is intentional and psychologically grounded to create a meaningful dynamic. Professionally, I am PhD educated, self-employed, and financially comfortable with meaningful work. I am physically attractive, patient yet firm, self-employed and have flexibility in travel and schedule. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, trail running, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing. Emotionally intelligent, mature, trauma informed, and sober. Kink wise, I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, some DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. I check all the boxes, even those you haven't considered.

Requirements: Serious intent. Reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Age isn't as important as emotional intelligence, and having yourself together enough to commit to building a relationship. Willingness to communicate off Reddit and meet IRL. I seek substance not convenience, thus location is of secondary importance.

Process: I am patient and methodical with a vetting process to ensure compatibility. I put forth the time and effort to craft a healthy dynamic and expect the same. Willing to travel between Asheville, Nashville, Huntsville, Chattanooga, Memphis and other areas in US that interest me, especially for the right babygirl. If you think you could be her, DM your age, location, and something descriptive especially for those with a blank profile.