Emotional Chess ♟️ ♎️🥰♒️
I 35 (F) Libra am realizing I am playing a head game of emotional chess with my manager whom I can’t fraternize with 🙈 He 36 (M) Aquarius. This man is so smart and I love talking to him whenever I can. I love getting in his head and seeing how he thinks I don’t always agree but I love his POV. But our talks are limited because he takes his job very seriously and there is a no fraternizing rule for direct reports. But we somehow unbeknownst to our colleagues seems to still flirt with each other in passing or for few seconds of alone time we may have. I’m hyper observant and he is as well so I notice everything even him when he’s noticing something different abt me. I can almost predict his next move. Sometimes I feel as though I manipulate situations for him to do things but I’m actually seeing that it’s not manipulation is strategy. Because I have a goal in the game I plant seeds and he plant seeds and everyone I confide in thinks I’m delusional. Like non of this is happening. The goal is to move this game from our heads to living out loud outside of the job. I silently talk to him with my eyes in passing and everytime he picks up on it never misses. He has a reputation of being “The Mean Manager” but not to me even when he does try to assert hisself as manager I give him that look and he folds everytime 😌 I can get what I want from him, some may call it favoritism but I know it’s much more and I think he appreciates that I don’t make these moves in front of anyone else which allows him to be soft with me without the the scrutiny 🧐 from other coworkers so we never have that favoritism rumor they all just hate him equally lol 😂 and I’m not going to be the one that gives them any fuel to report him to ethics. I guess what I want to know is how would you guys navigate a situation like this?? I’m want to move our interactions to outside but I’m not ready to quit to do so and I know he’s not quitting anytime soon I talked to him and he loves his job. I don’t mind leaving but I need to have something else in place first.